Have you noticed that poets celebrate young love? How many poems celebrate middle aged parents in love? In the spirit of Karezza, may I offer this one?

I was a once a contented product of the sexual revolution--or so I believed. My family was open and sensible about discussing sex, and barely religious. I concluded that orgasm was pure pleasure and the best possible relationship glue.

Human love lives are complex. One of the underlying reasons may be that we have two conflicting genetic programs at work in our limbic system, both of which have subtle, but powerful influences on our intimate relationships.

Even though sexual utopians can no longer boast (as loudly) about Bonobo nonviolence, they often maintain that Bonobo promiscuity would be suitable for humans-presumably because we share a lot of genes and even some behaviors.

However, the sexual utopians are forgetting one thing. Bonobos don't have "pair-bonder brains." We do.

The ch'ung mo, or thrusting channel rises from the base of the penis, goes up between the tu mo and jen mo channels and ends in the heart.—from "Taoist Yoga" by Charles Luk

Experts are beginning to measure the physiological hangovers of "love," so the time may be nearing that we can look at the physiological hangover buried in the passion cycle after orgasm.

One Clinic Zeroes In on How Modern Medicine Can Help Heal Heartbreak

Medical specialists from across the globe teamed up in Amsterdam this weekend to launch a first-of-its-kind clinic for the brokenhearted.
(Jack Aarts)

If you found the "Highlights" interesting, you may wish to watch the full presentation. (43-minutes)

Finally, a psychiatrist is acknowledging that intense orgasm can create a hangover for some people, without any apparent psychological issues. Maybe as professionals begin to explore the neurochemistry of extreme cases they will realize that the same neurochemical fluctuations are at work in more subtle ways in the problem of habituation between couples (as well as sex addiction).