Max Van Praag and Marnia discuss another approach to sex.
A forum member who doesn't post much, and who prefers not to start a blog, agreed to let me post his thoughts on what he calls "conscious loving." I thought you would all find it interesting.
I’m a man, at this point in time single. I make no claims to be any sort of role model in long term relationships. In regards to what I will call “conscious loving”, I can only share what I have experienced and felt, no particular expertise.
Can a guy keep himself faithful by jacking up oxytocin?
"A study published Tuesday in the Journal of Neuroscience has uncovered a surprising new property of oxytocin, finding that when men in monogamous relationships got a sniff of the stuff, they subsequently put a little extra space between themselves and an attractive woman they'd just met," wrote the LA Times recently.
The results surprised researchers. They had assumed oxytocin would make all men inch closer to cute females. Instead men in committed relationships moved farther away when dosed with oxytocin (and only when dosed). It's more evidence that pair-bonding is biological not cultural.
This research is in line with Cupid. Bonding behaviors register as both nurturing and sexual. Note also that solo sex makes cuddling less appealing.
Abstract: Touch is a critical factor in intimate bonds between romantic partners. Although cuddling is a key expression of intimacy, it has received little empirical attention.
This guy made an interesting experiment by cutting (way) back on ejaculating. He hasn't explored karezza yet, but it sounds like one of the guys who asked a question of him may have.
It's time to distinguish 'sexual orientation' from reversible 'sexual tastes'
The bulk of scientific evidence currently favors the view that the origins for most sexual desires are not cultural but innate. —Leon F. Seltzer
Such statements mislead people that all sexual inclinations are created equal and are immutable. This is simply not true.
[Excerpt from a site member's blog] Now finally home, this morning we awake early, and she suggests an early morning date in lieu of the Thursday missed on the plane home. This turns out to be a lovely long session, with lots of pillow talk and reminiscing, and about 6 or 8 of our favorite positions, lol. As well as the trip we also review the last 20 weeks on our karezza journey and we are unanimous at the miracle that has quietly but steadily sneaked into our lives and relationship. But there remains a sense of semi-disbelief that something so simple could be so effective.
Three years ago my marriage was in a bad place. We were like strangers living under the same roof. We have come a long way since then, but I know that there are still some obstacles in our marriage that prevent us from having the full energetic exchange that a relationship needs in order to thrive.
by L. Kevin & Donna Johnson, Darryl Keil and Sheree Swanson (Summer, 2012)
Note: This is a follow up article on the previous one entitled Karezza in Four Easy Steps. Here we will discuss specific details on how to move away from conventional mating sex toward the practice of Karezza. Commonly, some men feel that this form of sexual intercourse is “too boring and unexciting”, therefore, we’ll offer some insights based on our own personal experiences and explain why Karezza offers tremendous fulfillment and satisfaction.
6-30 After being married for 25 years (we are in our late 50s) this is a new one for us. I must say it is different, a good different. Before Karezza my wife and I had what I consider to be a great sex life, orgasm driven and goal oriented though it was. We had sex about every other day with mutual orgasm about twice a week and me orgasming every time, that was always the goal, orgasm. Me hoping she would cum, her hoping I would cum, her hoping she would cum, you know the drill. Although my wife only orgasmed once maybe twice weekly I always felt like I needed to do more to get her to cum more often.