When I first read "Peace", I could relate with so many of the symptoms described as part of the separation virus. Discovering that there was a possible answer gave me hope. In every relationship I've had (granted, not that many, I'm only 26), the "honeymoon period" lasted about 4 months, and then, like clockwork, I would become suicidally depressed, try and work through it for a couple months, but eventually leave, and spend the next several months in therapy or on medication patching up the wounds just so I could go do it all over again. However, I never truly felt that it was something I couldn't overcome. So, yes, finding "Peace" helped me understand biology's game, but doing the work helped me build up the inner strength to face the demons of the past, namely sexual abuse as a child, and then years of self-abuse through very poor decision-making.

I have wondered to myself if maybe the non-orgasmic approach to sex, and the balancing of all the neurochemicals in the brain, is just another way of avoiding the reality of the pain you've experienced. Maybe it takes on the role of medication in a more natural way. That would concern me, because that is not my goal. But one thing I've most surely noticed about myself since beginning this work is that even in times after a little dopamine accident , or when life just gets tough, the old manic or depressive reactions aren't as strong as they used to be. The suicide option doesn't even occur to me anymore. My life is forever changed. Even with all the scientific explanations, that is nothing short of a miracle to me. I definitely don't consider myself any kind of an expert, and I still struggle with the practice, but I'm convinced. As infinite the forms of biology's plan of inevitable separation may take, just as infinite the possibilities with this healing approach to love making. At least that’s been my experience. Of course, I must give my gratitude to my unconditionally loving partner.

By the way, I think the Religious Science church, Agape, would be a great place for you to give a talk if you ever decide to brave the traffic and return to LA. Although my boyfriend and I thoroughly enjoyed meeting you and Gary in such an intimate setting when you were down here a couple weeks ago, I think it would be wonderful if you could share your message with more people in the Los Angeles community. God knows they need to hear it, and I haven't been having much luck Love and thanks, V.

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