Submitted by KevinJ on Fri, 2012-01-13 19:31
by L. Kevin Johnson
Note: This article is written specifically for men. But it is helpful for women to understand what a man needs to accomplish in order for them both to experience mutual, sexual harmony. Therefore it is recommended that couples work on the process together. It takes time to wean off the “mating sex” program and regularly engage in bonding behaviors, such as Karezza, with lots of cuddling in-between, holding hands, affectionate hugs, etc., before our brains start to rewire and build receptors that will enable us to experience the enjoyable effects of oxytocin, the “love hormone.”
Submitted by singersewing on Fri, 2012-02-03 20:20
Today is day 17 no PM. I had a wet dream a few nights ago, so I can't say no O. I'm at about 4 months in this journey.
I was driving to class two days ago and I noticed something encouraging. My brain drifted to a fantasy. I should not have entertained it, I know, but I was in that driving trance and I really did not pay a lot of attention to it until it was fairly advanced. I was having natural, normal, non porn looking sex with a normal looking, beautiful woman. I got a solid boner in the truck, just driving down the road.
Submitted by getmeout on Fri, 2012-02-03 18:43
Submitted by mwa on Fri, 2012-02-03 16:46
I really try and avoid going to bars alone. Usually I just feel out of place and end up staring at some ball game I'm not at all interested in.
But one thing this process is teaching me is that you aren't going to get shit just sitting at home. Nada. Now we don't have an outlet if we do decide to hide away, so we have no choice any more.
Submitted by mwa on Fri, 2012-02-03 16:42
Submitted by activist8421 on Fri, 2012-02-03 16:15
13 days in and oh boy am I feeling the ups and down. Yesterday I felt good and today I feel down as if I have a feeling something is wrong. There is this lump in my throat that has been with me all day. I went running and I still feel that emotional lump in my throat. This is an addiction. I can see why this PMO reboot is compared to heroin or cocaine addicts going through withdrawals.
Submitted by bosmith2282 on Fri, 2012-02-03 12:52
Why is it that the dopamine you get after working out is "good" and helps balance your mood etc., whereas the dopamine you get after PMO is "bad" makes you get foggy,depressed etc...
Just something I was wondering about today. If anyone has an answer it would be much appreciated.
My only guess is that PMO has something to do with shame whereas working out is positive so it makes you feel good.
Submitted by bosmith2282 on Fri, 2012-02-03 12:52
Why is it that the dopamine you get after working out is "good" and helps balance your mood etc., whereas the dopamine you get after PMO is "bad" makes you get foggy,depressed etc...
Just something I was wondering about today. If anyone has an answer it would be much appreciated.
My only guess is that PMO has something to do with shame whereas working out is positive so it makes you feel good.
Submitted by dgcanela on Fri, 2012-02-03 11:40
whats up guys. well this is the first timei have ever spoken to anybody about my porn and masterbation addiction, let alone my ED. i am 22 years old college student. im generally healthy, i am pretty social. ive been told im attractive and charasmatic by women, so i have no problem communicating with girls. the problem is, i have been masterbating and watching porn since i was about 13 years old. i this coutinued through all of highschool. junior year i had my first girlfriend, and so i kinda stopped watching porn for a while.
Submitted by riselikethephoenix09 on Fri, 2012-02-03 08:48
This flatline thing is really fucking with me. I will feel like my libido is coming back and in almost minutes it can dip back down to flatline. I notice that I find little "sparks" so to speak in my libido. I made eye contact a day or two ago with a girl driving by and we both smiled at eachother and I felt that rush in my chest. No erection, let alone movement downstairs. But it was one of the first times I could "feel" my libido.
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