davidphd1866's blog

I recently read this man's blog entry. In it he explains what may be another approach to Karezza. He borrows heavily from Marnia's points.

Here is the link to his blog. I have attached the text below. http://secretchastityhusband.blogspot.com/2010/08/male-chastity-pleasure...

Friday, August 20, 2010
Male Chastity - Pleasure and Devotion, the Science Behind It

Today I completed my second session with "NP Hypnotist" using hypnosis as an adjunct to my overall efforts. Our first session focused on attaining the deeply relaxed state, while the second one dealt specifically with the notion of omitting ejaculation from my sexual practices--en route to a Karezza lifestyle.

A number of recent posts (by Celeste, Quizure, Trumpet, Flowing Searcher, et al) helped illuminate a point for me: Porn is harmful to women and causes a lot of pain because of how it normally depicts women as only "worthy" if they let some man or men with gigantic penises have their way with them. Their thoughtful comments helped me realize how there is a flip-side to porn for the male:

Dear Forum Members,

Like many of us, I have caused myself considerable problems as a result of excessive masturbation, porn and ejaculation over my lifetime. In my case, I have clearly cheated my spouse out of the terrfic love-making pleasure she deserves as a result. As a means to heal myself, I have been fortunate to embark on a regimen of hypnosis therapy with one of our forum members (NP Hypnotist). Her and I decided it may be interesting to share our therapy journey on this site.

I need some help. Some recent success at Karezza may have actually set me back.....Please allow me to explain.

For a variety of reasons my wife had not let me have intercourse with her during sex. Prior to my recent experience, the last time I was allowed intercourse was July of 2009. About a month ago I convinced my wife to try Karezza gentle intercourse. It went fantastically! We managed to bond this way for a solid 15 minutes or so. When we were done--no orgasms--the glow of the connection lasted for days. By all accounts I had a new "convert" on my hands with my wife.

I am not sure how helpful this will be, but as Marnia says--all data is good data.

I recently went six weeks without ejaculating. I felt ALL of the benefits that we talk about in this forum. I felt better, my wife and I enjoyed some great bonding activity, etc. etc. My plan was to continue indefinately. I was simply enjoying a better way. Not only that, the "urge" was very small. After about the three week mark things settled down nicely and it was fairly simple to continue.

It's funny how life doesn't always go in the direction you wanted. For the past couple of weeks I have been voraciously gathering the information on this site as support for my introduction of Karezza into my marriage. Over the years both my wife and I have allowed our sexual relationship to drift quite a bit by relying more and more on masturbation. Of course, we justified it secretly to ourselves by reminding ourselves how "busy" we were.