neil's blog

I have not updated in a LONG time. What can I say, life is good! Let's get the stats out of the way.

No masturbation, don't even think about it, period.
Only one orgasm in over a year, and that was accidental.
Don't miss either.

Overall, my mood is better and I am full of energy!
I have started working out (Lost 17 pounds so far!) Not overweight terribly, just mainly out of shape.
Started eating better, and smaller portions.

I found this site about 15 months ago. In this time, the following changes have occured in my marriage and my life:

1. My wife and I resumed having sexual intercourse after 4 plus years of celibate marriage
2. I have not masturbated in almost one year. For many months before that, I did it ritually and maybe once per month in a misguided belief that the pipes needed to be cleaned. I have absolutely no desire to masturbate.
3. I have not ejaculated in 7 months. I no longer have any desire to ejaculate, even if I get overheated during intercourse.

I would have to say we are pretty much settled in to our new lifestyle now. We are closer than we have ever been. We are more affectionate and more openly in love! We played around with frequency of intercourse and find that we gravitate more towards the weekends, although we cuddle and caress nightly. We are both simply more relaxed on the weekends and find this is what we naturally gravitate to.

This works like magic. I could feel orgasm building for days. It was very difficult to hold back. Sometime over Labor Day weekend, it finally happened. Since I had not had an orgasm in slightly over 2 months, the after effects were very noticeable for me and my wife. I was terribly grouchy the following days. I also feel less affectionate. Still not completely back up to speed.

Did I not read on here somewhere that over time, the physical need to orgasm will subside? That would be really nice. I do not like this up and down feeling after having one.

Instead of having intercourse last night, I asked if we could spend some time talking about what our feelings are with our new lifestyle.....

No issues on the wife's part. She really loves it! She does not miss orgasm and has no desire to have any more. I asked about that, as she had extremely powerful orgasms in the past. For me, they were quite fun to participate in and watch! I asked how she could be so powerfully orgasmic, but not want them any more. She said they left her wiped out for days afterwards! I never knew that. She said orgasm is just not worth it for her......

Quote:

With Karezza, satiety is never known, and the married are never less than lovers; each day reveals new delights…

Talked to my wife last night. Since I crave more affection, and she has an on / off switch for that sort of thing. (Mine is always on), I asked if we could change our routine. I reminded her about giving daily affection outside of the bedroom and that we should engage in bonding every day, whether we have intercourse or not. We are also going to increase the frequency of intercourse from once per week, to every three days.

My wife is back, things are settled down. She practically jumped into bed with me the first night back! Good moderate arousal on both parts. Not much sleep! It was wonderful! We later talked about how she feels about Karezza. She, although not as outwardly enthusiasitic about it as I am, is quite the willing partner! She said she likes it as much as traditional sex.

I have not posted in awhile, thought it was time for an update. My wife and I agreed about two months ago to scheduling intercourse on every date that ended in 7. She suggested it, I agreed. (For those that may not remember or know, we are coming off a 5 year celibate period, so 2 - 3 times per month is a pretty significant improvement.)

Hello all!