Well its been nearly 2 and 1/2 months since I quit porn and that has gone well with just a few times of difficult temptation (and I suppose a few short instances of very softcore stuff). I went a month without O and since then its been about once every 1-2 weeks (preferring not at all). Sometimes I do some M but never to orgasm. So basically the times I have O it was with partners. I think it should be noted I am gay. I am not looking to have multiple partners in the least, I kind of experimented the last month and have found monogamy is for me.
Right now my challenges are twofold. I have a big problem with fantasy in the morning when I wake up, the thing is I tend to wake up after only 6 hours of sleep and I know I need more. So I try to get back to sleep but all sorts of lustful imagery/fantasy starts to pulse through my brain. I end up not sleeping and wasting an hour on fantasy which I know is not healthy. The simple solution is to just get up, but sometimes I am simply convinced I can get back to sleep and... So any strategies or ideas out there to help me sleep/keep off the fantasy?
My second thing is that I have tried to do the cuddle buddy thing, but it almost always goes too far. I know in the month that I did not O I got began to really need some sort of touch. I also just came out to my conservative christian family...who I live with while finishing my degree.. so needless to say stress levels are high! Any ideas there on how I can deal with my sexuality in a healthy way? Also, how far do you(personally) feel you can go in a relationship that has (for the moment) no long term commitment? At what point do you feel drained or unhealthy?