Hi there, just a quick question if i may?
I go to the gym every day and also go in the steamroom and sauna after training,
there are lots of pretty girls in the gym with their bits shaking about while they exersise, also in the spa there are lots of pretty girls in bikini's etc,
1)Is this an environment that i should avoid while rebooting?
2)Also, after reboot, can increasingly freaky sexual acts that escalate through relationships as they progress over time affect a rebooted brain?
3)When rebooted is it ok to watch sex scenes in main stream movies?
4)When rebooted is it ok to have as much sex as you and your partner like?
Thankyou for any help guys :)
I'd avoid anything that looks
I'd avoid anything that looks sexual, except making out with girlfriend/wife.
During no-PMO you need to stop sexual urges/fantasies and acting out on them, etc as much as possible and let your brain heal, and if you have a partner, try bonding/Karrezza with her.
Keep it simple. Let your brain heal. And after the no-PMO period, keep no-PM and orgasm only with your woman. As our ancestors did...
Think about it: Did our ancestors stay in the sauna with super hot girls in bikinis ? (most of them probably not :) Did they watch sexy/porn movies ? I guess not... Did they have a harem ? most of them, no, I suppose... So let's get back to how they lived. They usually had 1 woman with whom they enjoyed everything (maybe a mistress, sometimes... but probably rarely). And that's it, as simple as that !
Don't watch sex in movies and don't stare at girls in bikinis at the sauna... that's quite a bit close to porn... isn't it ? (in my opinion)
Depends on you and your brain
If you can look appreciatively and not fantasize, then it may be okay. Does this FAQ help? http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-di...
You'll have to work out the answers to your other questions for yourself, too. Some people are sensitive to the neurochemical cycle after orgasm; some aren't. The Passion Cycle
Thanks you two :)
aNewLife180deg) I ment after reboot with the "When rebooted is it ok to watch sex scenes in main stream movies" question
Marnia) Does being sensitive to neurochemical cycle after orgasm apply more so to rebooted users? im just scared that if i try to have sex like i used to when rebooted that ill end up developing ed again :(
Also is a damaged reward circuit going to be a problem for life? As i read a recovery story from a guy who rebooted who was fine, but when he split from his gf he PMO'd 10-15 times and developed ed again, im not saying that i would ever want to do that again but it kind of says that the receptors are kind of fragile for life, Im kind of imagining that one to many strong dopamine spikes through "increasingly freaky sexual acts that escalate through relationships as they progress over time" and its back to square one :(
Im kind of worried that its gonna be a life time of reboots for us ex porn addicts :(
No one really knows
the answer to that question, because the effects of porn and the process of recovery haven't been adequately studied. It's really ridiculous because the tools exist. There's just a naive assumption that sexual stimulation can't cause addiction. Happens to be wrong.
Anyway, some guys here seem to do just fine with conventional sex after they get rebooted. Most, in fact. Other's notice they're a bit senstive to orgasm...but they do it anyway and just learn to be aware of the fallout and resist the "chaser." Do You Need A Chaser After Sex? Others experiment with karezza (sex without the goal of orgasm), and find they like it better than regular sex.
So there are lots of options to play with when the time comes.
Porn use probably won't be a smart choice for a very long time. This article explains why. Why Do I Find Porn More Exciting Than A Partner?