Have you ever fallen in love with total abandon, experienced wonderful lovemaking, been sure you wanted to stay together forever—and then noticed recurring emotional friction arising between you and your beloved? If you’re married do you have a sense that the honeymoon is over? Perhaps one of you sometimes becomes clingy and demanding while the other feels devoured and “needs space.” Maybe you experience subtle, periodic irritation, or a sense of stagnation that is gradually extinguishing your former delight in each other. Perhaps you engage in spectacular fights interspersed with passionate reconciliation.
This subconscious alienation between lovers after sexual satiation—in all of its forms—is what I think of as the poison on Cupid’s arrow. In some of us it takes effect so rapidly that we part after a single tryst. ...
The new version of Peace Between the Sheets will be published next June, under the name Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships.
This is a video of excerpts of a Chinese ballet ensemble performing Swan Lake. The first part is some entertaining frogs, the second a breath-taking segment featuring an amazing couple. I usually reserve this space in the newsletter for something inspiring about male-female union. Few videos are more inspiring than the second portion of this one.