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Reuniting - June 2008 Newsletter

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June, 2008
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Finding Peace Between Our Sheets

Interview by Adam Elenbaas for "Reality Sandwich"

What if one of the largest problems facing human beings is something so simple and so subtle that it's looking us right in the face, sometimes 2 or 3 times a night?

When I first read Peace Between the Sheets I felt angry. Certainly orgasms are beautiful, natural and important to forging intimacy. How could they be the bane of my love life? I thought: this writer must be religious. ....

Read interview - and add your comments to the debate!
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Have A Laugh at the Gender Gap

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Letters from the Trenches

I was numb and dull! The "natural" world was "boring." I didn't want to quit because each day was "boring" and the porn was an easy excitement. I didn't interact with other because it took too much work, I had to think too hard and it was "boring."...I'm dating a woman now for the first time since quiting porn and masturbation. I was/am fearful as I move forward - but it's amazing! I am finding her so attractive, just as she is. ... I never imagined that would happen and it is so exciting. The colors are back. The smells are back and everything is wonderful.

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PEACE BETWEEN THE SHEETS News

Seeking volunteers. Anyone want to volunteer to read and critique a part of the next edition of Peace Between the Sheets? If so, contact me, and let me know what you're particularly interested in.

Calling all goddesses: We have lots of adorable guys waiting for Courtly Companions!

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Spiritual Partnership

This couple, coming from a Buddhist, celibate tradition, are also exploring the benefits of uniting male and female. The practice they have arrived at echoes the early Christian practice of "spiritual marriage." Critics assume they are engaging in conventional sex, but it's unlikely that they could tolerate such extended intimacy with climax in the picture.

"Making Their Own Limits in a Spiritual Partnership"

TEN years ago, Michael Roach and Christie McNally, Buddhist teachers with a growing following in the United States and abroad, took vows never to separate, night or day.

By “never part,” they did not mean only their hearts or spirits. They meant their bodies as well. And they gave themselves a range of about 15 feet. ...

Entire article (30k pdf)

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The more orgasms, the less attractive women find men

Last year a sexologist did research on women engaging in various kinds of sexual activity for 30 days - and tested them to see how attractive and friendly they found (unknown) men's pictures. He was trying to prove that women engaging in PVI (penile-vaginal intercourse) would find pictures of strange men less attractive than the other women did, because they would be more bonded with their mates.

Instead what he found matched with what we've been theorizing. The more orgasms the women had across the board...the more unattractive and aggressive they ranked the pictures of the men.

And the women who only masturbated during that time ranked the men the lowest. (Women engaging in oral sex with a partner and so forth didn't like the men much either.) The PVI women ranked the men the highest - which suggests that it was the intercourse (deep connection with a partner), not the orgasms, that truly benefited the women.

Link to research on orgasm's effects on women

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