Reuniting - October 2008 Newsletter

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October, 2008
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Forget about testing for the infidelity gene

There is lots of hype in journalistic accounts of sex research. One of the most recent bits of hype was the claim that there is a "fidelity gene" in men. Here's the real scoop from "The San Francisco Chronicle."

Are you a heterosexual woman seeking a monogamous relationship? Have you ever wanted to genetically test a prospective partner for his ability to remain happily monogamous?

If so, don't pin your hopes on a study published last week in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. ...

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Have A Laugh at the Gender Gap

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Letters from the Trenches

Hold the orgasm, please


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REUNITING News

Have a look at the draft cover for Cupid's Poisoned Arrow, coming out next June.

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Comparing Neo-Taoism with Karezza

Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia (with Michael Winn) was my first introduction to the wisdom of making love without striving for orgasm. ...

However, even before I stumbled upon the ancient account of Taoist lovemaking in the work of the famous Taoist sage, Lao Tzu, I realized that there was an inherent inconsistency in Chia’s teachings. The mystical, merging experience which he calls “the valley orgasm” is a state of “not doing.” Yet, much of Chia’s book is about performance-oriented techniques....

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Consummation: A very peculiar practice

A good look at the bad news by UK journalist Hannah Betts. Hopefully she'll someday write as brilliant a piece about the means to greater harmony: bonding behaviors, and a new way of besting biology in the bedroom!

Consummation, as set down dispassionately by the Oxford English Dictionary is "the action of making a marriage or relationship complete by having sexual intercourse"; from the Latin verb consummare, uniting con- (altogether), with summa (sum total), the feminine of summus (highest, or supreme). An end, then, that may be no less a beginning and a lofty one at that, ripe with connotations that the act itself should prove consummate.

And yet, in practice, sex is rather akin to dancing: something physical and exuberant that makes most of us look like arses.....

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