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Have a look at the draft cover for Cupid's Poisoned Arrow, coming out next June.

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Comparing Neo-Taoism with Karezza

Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia (with Michael Winn) was my first introduction to the wisdom of making love without striving for orgasm. ...

However, even before I stumbled upon the ancient account of Taoist lovemaking in the work of the famous Taoist sage, Lao Tzu, I realized that there was an inherent inconsistency in Chia’s teachings. The mystical, merging experience which he calls “the valley orgasm” is a state of “not doing.” Yet, much of Chia’s book is about performance-oriented techniques....

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Consummation: A very peculiar practice

A good look at the bad news by UK journalist Hannah Betts. Hopefully she'll someday write as brilliant a piece about the means to greater harmony: bonding behaviors, and a new way of besting biology in the bedroom!

Consummation, as set down dispassionately by the Oxford English Dictionary is "the action of making a marriage or relationship complete by having sexual intercourse"; from the Latin verb consummare, uniting con- (altogether), with summa (sum total), the feminine of summus (highest, or supreme). An end, then, that may be no less a beginning and a lofty one at that, ripe with connotations that the act itself should prove consummate.

And yet, in practice, sex is rather akin to dancing: something physical and exuberant that makes most of us look like arses.....

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