Hello,
I am 26 years old. I am into my 10th week of no PMO. I do not know if I am healed or not. During week 8, I had to take the airplane. At this time, I felt like I had no desire. However, a young woman came to sit next to me. She was nice and she talked to me a little bit. Then suddenly I got a very strong erection. I was very surprised because like I said, I felt like I had no desire earlier in the day. When I try to simulate a conversation with a woman in my head, I never get erections.
I am a foreign postgraduate student in applied mathematics and I practically interact only with men. Therefore, It is difficult to know if I am healed or not. There are very few women at the institute and I live in a small village. Sometimes, I am so overwhelmed with work that I am too discouraged to try to meet new people or women.
Thank you a lot for your time
I'm impressed
and envious, 9 weeks deep! You're way ahead of me, but nevertheless I want to share some things I've read on this site. #1 You're probably in some kind of flatline. #2 You don't respond to fantasy, you DO respond to real women...um, isn't that kind of the goal?! Hehe.
Read:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/how-do-i-know-when-im-back-to-normal
May I ask...If the gods of No PMO pronounced you HEALED or NOT HEALED, how would that change your plan/behaviours?
Sounds very promising
But Reginald's question is good? What's next?
Can you make an effort to meet some women? Are you going to try to choose a reasonable masturbation schedule (http://yourbrainonporn.com/are-there-any-guidelines-for-healthy-masturba...) or learn to circulate your sexual energy? (http://yourbrainonporn.com/tools-solo-energy-practices)
Please don't go back to porn...even tame stuff. If your brain desensitized itself the first time...it can happen again.
Even a little bit of socializing can really help before you find a mate. Ideas for meeting others: http://yourbrainonporn.com/tools-to-connect-with-others
Start a blog if you wish.
Thank you for your
Thank you for your encouragements
During these nine weeks I used to be extremely anxious. I was very lonely but at the same time, I was afraid of women talking to me because I had no desire. I would be far less anxious and a lot more calm if I knew I was about to be healed. I would really like to exit this state of great anxiety. I would feel more free. However, I had a lot of problems with fantasies during the past weeks. Maybe this is why my progress has been so slow. Usually, the more anxious I am about my progress, the more prone I am to fantasize.
Yes, I think I could make an effort to have more interactions with women. However, even if I do not meet a woman soon, I am really determined not to go back to pornography. I am not sure about masturbation. In the past, masturbation would sometimes caused me insomnia and agitation.
I so admire
you guys for powering through the anxiety and misery.
Sounds like socializing will be the way out of the box for you. You can start small...by just sitting in the library or coffee house making eye contact and smiling at people. Once you're good at those social cues, you can move to others. Read this and you'll understand what I'm babbling about: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/200909/the-la...
Let us know what works for you.
Sooner or later a lady is
Sooner or later a lady is going to come around. You just have to be patient and let it happen. If your friend downstairs is responding to real life situations that could only be good. The only way to really know you're cured is by well making love with a woman. But, that doesn't mean you should force it, if in your heart you don't feel ready then don't do it and remember a good woman wouldn't force you to do anything you're not ready to do. Just give yourself some credit man, you're doing fine!