I still love you.

I don’t tell you that very often, because usually when I try to talk with you, I feel rejected, and I go away feeling hurt or angry. I wish we could talk with each other without so much stress.

Do you still love me, or at least, care about me? Sometimes I think you do. Sometimes you buy nice clothes for me. A week ago you told me “Don’t commit suicide” (by working so late). Why would you do or say those things if you don’t want me to be part of your life?

Someone recommended the web site marriagebuilders.com to me. I think it’s a pretty good web site for people who want to save (or improve) their marriage. I read the first chapter of the book Love Busters on the web site. It was good enough that I bought a copy. Would you please read the introduction and first chapter of the book? Then you can decide if you want to read the rest of it.

There is a questionnaire that goes with the book. I’ve printed it out for you. You can write down all the things I’ve been doing that are destroying our marriage. I will work to try to improve those things – if I have some hope that it will save our marriage.

Many months ago I tried to talk with you about getting back together. You told me, over and over, the most important thing was for me to “get a steady job.” Well, I have had a steady job for five months now. I like it, and the people I work with are happy with what I am doing. So, how about we get together again? Or at least, let’s talk about it?

Love,