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Tue, 2008-11-04 10:30 — spiritual_hardship

Day 12.
Last night was the first time I've had sex and by choice not ejaculated. I guess I was a slightly less exiting lay then usual as when she came all I could do was to relax completely and focus on loving instead of lustfull feelings so I wouldn't join her in temporary ecstacy. So she didn't get the stimulation she was used to. But all in all it turned out to be easier then I thought. Mindset and attitude has obviously more powers over animal instincts and lust then I realised. From previous non voluntarily non-ejaculating sex experiences I was kinda expecting to be extremely horny and jittery afterwards but I wasn't. And I didn't have the usual after orgasm drowsiness either, actually I just felt rather good. And from my girlfriends point of view the slightly less stimulating intercourse was kind of compensated by me being more ready for cuddling and affection afterwards, so she seemed to think it was a nice experience after all! Smiling

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Tue, 2008-11-04 12:43 — CuriousFellow
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Wonderful!!! :-)

Thank you so much for the report, SH. My experience was similar, way back when, except my wife didn't have an orgasm (she rarely does).

I hope you don't mind me asking, but how did those previous "non voluntarily non-ejaculating sex experiences" occur? I was talking to a friend recently about karezza, and he said he had made love without orgasm a few times ("It just worked out that way") and he didn't think it was very interesting - which surprised me when he said it. But after I thought about it (why did I find it so pleasant and memorable, while he found it uninteresting?) I concluded that it probably had a lot to do with intention - I avoided orgasm intentionally, so my experience was a "success" of sorts, while in his case, it may not have been intentional, and so it may have felt like a failure, and colored his perception of the experience.

Does that make sense to you?

Tue, 2008-11-04 16:11 — spiritual_hardship
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My previous experiences of

My previous experiences of non-ejaculating sex usually has been that my partner has been either satisfied to a point where she looses interest, or that she has had some "problems" down there that made it more uncomfortable then pleasurable at some point. I like you think the intention is the main thing that differs, and boy what a difference it makes! Eye-wink

Better and better every time! Eye-wink

Tue, 2008-11-04 16:01 — Marnia
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Brave man!

Glad you both survived...to your surprise. Eye-wink

Any chance your sweetheart would try the Exchanges with you? I could send you the newest version.

Tue, 2008-11-04 16:16 — spiritual_hardship
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I think she isn't quite open

I think she isn't quite open for trying it yet, she's not into all this self improvement and spiritual stuff that I'm into and she usually finds most of it kinda peculiar. At least at first, then bits and pieces rub off on her after a while. So I'm hoping that will be the case with this also after a while! Eye-wink

Better and better every time! Eye-wink