It seems to me that masturbation without orgasm is a sort of 'solo karezza'. I'm surprised more people on this list, who are trying to cut pornography and masturbation to orgasm out of their lives, don't experiment with it. After all, fantasy and arousal are pretty normal activities. We use them every time we consider what we're going to eat!

Maybe people do try it, and find it hard to stay in the unheated zone. From my experience, that's no easier (but, of course, still perfectly possible) with a partner. In fact, I would say, practice alone might help promote an understanding of how best to proceed when with someone else.

I have a recollection of a previous poster explaining how he masturbated without reaching orgasm; it emphasised diluting any mounting pleasure by sending energetic waves towards his heart; but I've forgotten the details.

I also resort to masturbation w/o orgasm when my sexual impulse level is really high and I struggle to control myself. I am not addicted to porn but I am to masturbation, and fantasies normally don't come to my mind, which perhaps makes things easier.

So when all other alternatives fail, I do long slow masturbation sessions w/o orgasm, normally in bed in the evening, which helps somewhat to provide relief. I normally manage not to get into the red zone, and often fall asleep peacefully.

However, that doesn't reduce the sexual impulse level, and normally the day after my level is as high as it was the day before

Peace