Hello. As a part of my ongoing shifting of reality, I've come upon a new mystery, being a man. For so long, I gave my attention to women, admired and loved them. I can see now that I'm at a point where I need to explore further what it means to be a man. This, I think, is different for every man, but maybe there are some common ideas. I've seen in my own unconscious actions and programming that I have silly ideas about being a man, many of them from action movies or romantic comedies. I'm now redefining.
"A man goes out into the dark to cut down trees." My uncle told me this on the porch after a long day of work and this is what he meant. His partner was losing the view to her favorite oak due to some fast growing juniper trees in a nearby lot. My uncle went on a nighttime stealth mission to remove the obstacles for his partner and restore her view. The dark is the unknown and the trees are a goal. A man has an objective and follows the line to reach the objective, usually treading through some unknown territory along the way.
I quite like the Taoist metaphor. Yang is active and light, a force. Men take action, move along a line to a goal. They do things, pursue their goals instead of letting those goals come to themselves.
I don't really know what a man is, but I've recently decided what kind of man I want to be. I want to be kind instead of being right. I want to be compassionate and aware of the world and the people around me. I want to know what I want and know that I can reach that goal. Confident and sure in the face of any unknown.