You're so right.

Here's part of a PM I got, which was very insightful:

Maybe one of the reasons girls enjoy love and closeness over sex is that they have grown up with a more fairytaleish and romantic view on things, whereas every teenageboy with a bedtime past 10PM and a television has been more or less brainwashed by porno.

I remember a girly friend of mine once telling me that first time she was with a boy, he literally started pounding her insides with his fingers, without thinking about proper lubrication, thinking it was how it should be done. He simply did not know better, because he had only ever seen sexual encounters on random xxx channels. And if you watch it frequently enough, it becomes a part of your sexuality, because you start masturbating regulary watching it; you start getting turned on by closely viewing genitials, deepthroat, cumshots and likewise.

And as soon as teenagers start sleeping together, it gets worse for those not getting any, because they will start focusing enormously on what they are missing out. It’s pretty common for everyone to focus upon what you are not getting and you then start perceiving it as very important.

Then, as soon as they find an interesting girl, they can’t wait to get started and think of nothing else, than making up for long years of soloing. Whereas most girls have been looking forward to the first romantic love, like in the movies, fairytales and novels. Which is probably why most guys already are (mentally) ready - or think they are - for sexual encounters, whereas girls may not be ready. Most girls end up in disappointment though, having looked forward to the romantic first times, like in the teenage love-movies.

And as that was not bad enough, every time a guy in a porno-movie touches a girl even the slighest, she starts screaming in pleasure. No wonder teenage-sex becomes so goal- and performance-oriented, when you inherit the idea of orgasms - and the harder and faster you pound, the better the orgasm - as the only source of pleasure for a woman (possibly also because the orgasm is the highest genitial pleasure for guys, at least before you start karezza or emotional sex).

And when it doesn’t work in real life, you become frustrated. It took me a long time to get that mindset out of the head, sadly. And when my girlfriend told me that slow and caring lovemaking felt very good too, I thought she was being nice, because I didn’t know my way around. It just took a little bit of empathy for the opposite gender, to realize she was right.

That was around the time I thought something was wrong with me and that porn had done irreversible things to my sexuality. I was fed up with being nearly forced into thinking sexually, as soon as the possibility for sex was a reality. I would much rather lie down and feel closeness endlessly, but I was constantly overpowered and manipulated by genes, as I know now. That is why your material is so important to me.

Anyways, I am so fortunate that my parents purchased your first book for me, as a present. They must have seen me endlessly occupying myself in ’Peace’, because they asked for names of similar books!