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Day 1 - Cut down the Alcohol

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Sun, 2009-09-27 15:43 — JaylBreak

I crashed and burned on day 7. Just picked up the pieces again with another attempt. Not sure if there's anything I'm going to change this time around. Never get around to writing my goals out so I'll have to get that done. I also received my copy of Cupid's Poisoned Arrow so I'll be reading that too!

Still need to reduce my alcohol consumption. I'm going to put a hard limit - no more than 3 drinks when I go out. The evidence seems to be piling up that I have little self-control whenever I drink excessively. Unfortunately my social life revolves around drinking so I would have to cut off the few friends that I've made since I moved if I'm going to call it quits. Not an easy pill to swallow when I'm trying to overcome my porn addiction and need the social interaction. I'll try cutting back and see if I succeed. Perhaps start making a few friends that do more than just drink!

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Sun, 2009-09-27 16:14 — Marnia
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That was a good start, no?

Can you switch what you drink? Or maybe you could just tell everyone you want to go for a run the next day with a clear head (and no alcohol poisoning Eye-wink )...or something.

Remember, the two may go hand-in-hand...meaning that the less porn you use, the less the alcohol cravings. Both work on the same dopamine system in the brain.

Good luck! Let me know how you like Cupid.

Sun, 2009-09-27 16:32 — JaylBreak
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I recognize it's the same

I recognize it's the same dopamine rush. In fact, I've been using alcohol as a substitute for porn. Ever since I started on this journey at the beginning of the year, the amount of alcohol I consume has increased. Getting my dopamine rush another way.

In fact, thinking about it - I never went out drinking a whole lot last year. Now it seems like it's twice a week. Perhaps it's my increased drinking that has attracted me to the friends I now have. And I'm afraid of losing those friends so I keep drinking. If I were to revert to what I was previously doing (getting involved with social activities that didn't involve drinking), I would have a different group of friends I could turn to them instead of my drinking buddies. I don't have to cut off my friendship but perhaps expand who I hang out with. Not sure if you know what I mean - after all the hangover has left my thoughts in a muddled state of confusion! Eye-wink

Sun, 2009-09-27 20:08 — Marnia
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*giggle*

Actually, it made perfect sense. You're thinking of expanding your social circle. Always a good idea.

Wishing you some wonderful friends of all kinds of interests.

Mon, 2009-09-28 09:17 — JRsun76
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Drinking

Drinking is trouble for me too. Thanks for the reminder, I keep forgetting that one! I guess Im too much fun when I drink. My friend always wants to go out drinking and I want to keep him as a friend, so I do. It reverts me back to a teenager when I did most of my drinking, which was fun, so there is an attraction for me.

Best of luck with that, I know how hard it is to keep and make sober friends. Its so much easier to make friends while drinking. I end up getting way too drunk too quick so I end up doing something ridiculous pretty fast anyways.