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Quandry: What to call this kind of lovemaking?
Anyone have any ideas about how to refer to this other type of lovemaking? I sometimes call it "controlled intercourse," which lacks poetry...to say the least.
Many years ago, the Catholic Church called it "coitus reservatus" in a mandate discouraging its use. The author of "The Karezza Method" argued that since it is not "coitus completus" (ejaculatory sex) or "coitus interuptus" (ejaculation...er...elsewhere), and yet gives a feeling of "perfect realization," it should be called, "coitus sublimatus"...and be recognized as another form of "complete coitus."
Many authors have referred to the feeling of blissful merging with a partner as "melting." That term appeals to me most. In fact, I think MELT is a perfect acronym for "Mutual Ecstatic Loving Transcendence." However, for the uninitiated, "melting" does call up the image of the demise of the Wicked Witch of the West....
"Non-orgasmic sex" is hard to get excited about.
Suggestions?
The Name Game
Brainstorm ---
- Lovegiving (instead of lovemaking)
- Controlled Intercourse
- Intimate Union
- Heart Sex (to go with the Heart Orgasm)
- Valley Sex (to go with the Valley Orgasm)
- Sacred Doin It
But I think it needs a "Tantric", "Yoga", "Hindu" type name to it. Something along the lines of "Namaste".
hmmm...I Just don't know!
Making Love sounds about as close as you could get. (c:
what to call this kind of love-making
hello everyone,
part of my professional background is that of being a buddhist tantric master.
i am writing a revision of a sexual tantra founded upon the original classics of nearly 1000 years ago.
i have also been developing a dry form of sexual yoga that i call yab-yum tantra. there is no penetration, even no undressing and participants have spontaneous orgams but with no ejaculation.
i haven't done karrezza and i will looking for guidance from the more experienced members.
it would interest me to search through my hindu and buddhist glossaries for a suitable new-name for your method.
the original sexual tantra which is called the hevajra tantra states that 'we rise by the same way that we fell' meaning if sex and emotions have brought us down, they are the same means by which to heal and restore yourself.
Kilaya.
Holotropic Sex
I have been thinking a lot about that lately... Of course, I thought about names, such as Spiritual Unity, Inner Sexuality, Tantric(Dao/Tao/) Love, Brahmachari Devotion, even celibate sex, because it performs the same spiritual purposes as celibacy, but including sex. And so on and so on… Finally, the best name I made up, was: Holotropic Sex, or Holotropic Unity, or Holotropic Oneness, Holotropic Love. Holotropic is Greek word that means: Directed toward the Whole, the Wholeness. The word is used by Stanislav Grof, one of the great revolutionary pioneers in the Transpersonal Psychology, for the breathing therapy he uses. So: why not – Holotropic Sex ! ! !
:) 
Be Healthy!!!
i vote for sexual alchemy
My vote goes to either "Sexual Alchemy" or "Infinite Intercourse" tho intercourse isn't the sexiest word, but i like the infinite part. Maybe "Infinite Alchemical Coupling"? I've read that some practitioners of sexual alchemy report a feeling of constantly making love even when they are not touching or are in different locations. "Sexual Alchemy" is still the most succinct, evocative, and accurate description of the process, in my opinion.
OK here goes :-)
1. tendering
2. deliberate non-orgasm
3. keep-it-up
4. no-landing love
5. cudlove
6. oxitocology
7. stopless love
8. lovelymaking
9. lovelife support
10. sweetning
I'd call it
I'd call it Blueballs...
JOKING!! need some humor on here now and then..
ahem..sorry
I actually like Karezza, but then again I am of Italian origin so..
Speaking of alchemy
Want to add your thoughts on this page?
http://www.reuniting.info/spirit_blog/rosarium_philosophorum_sacred_sex
the hevajra tantra
This makes perfect sense to me, Kilaya. I feel like this is exactly the message I received, via inner listening. Interestingly, the neurochemical research now points to possible explanations for why this is true.
If you want to see another spiritual source that seemed to receive the same information, have a look here: http://www.reuniting.info/wisdom/edgar_cayce_on_sex_and_the_tree_of_life
Warning...it's long.
Marnia
a name...
I think every time I've discussed the practice with someone, I've called it something different. Depending on the person, I've tried to describe in a way they understand. But as for an actual technical term, hmmm..... since it so closely resembles Karezza (and because Marnia is the reincarnation of Alice B. Stockham:), I often call it by that name. Of course, I also like "Pure Embrace" and the Taoist "Dual Cultivation" which I'm just learning about reading "Energy and Eros". (Fantastic book, by the way, very educational and inspirational!)
Quandry: What to call this kind of lovemaking?
I've thought of calling it NewWave Lovemaking.
I'd like to create a list of possibilities.
William
Quandry: What to call this kind of lovemaking?
My one suggestion so far is Infinite Intercourse, because it is free of the limitations of orgasm.
Quandry: What to call this kind of lovemaking?
These are all good. There's also "Sexual alchemy." I like the idea that some kind of transformation is possible with this approach.
What to call it
I have contemplated quite a lot about what to call this as well. I generally refer to it as Karezza - that term is simple and unique enough that people don't immediately assume that they know what I mean. If I have time to explain in detail, I do - but worst case, if they look it up on the internet, they will at least get headed in the right direction, and probably find their way to Marnia's book.
Marnia - do you have Karezza as one of the Meta terms on your webpage, so search engines can pick it up?
Greg
Quandry: What to call this kind of lovemaking?
Greg asked:
I think this is a good idea, as this is a known term. Other terms might be appropriate as well to get the attention of those who are searching, but I especially liked how he used the word in conversation.
I have also found myself spontaneously using a couple of terms in my own writings which I will share here: “conscious energetic coupling” or “magnetic melding” (CEC-MM). This helps me to think outside of any system or box, but it does shows my bias toward understanding things in terms of the meridian or nadi systems through which a “life force” theoretically flows. This bias forms the philosophical center piece for all my study and meditation and healing work, which boils down to a “unified field” formula : matter = energy = consciousness.
An off topic question.
Arjay wrote:
This helps me to think outside of any system or box, but it does shows my bias toward understanding things in terms of the meridian or nadi systems through which a life force theoretically flows. This bias forms the philosophical center piece for all my study and meditation and healing work, which boils down to a unified field formula : matter = energy = consciousness.[/quote]
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My sincere apologies to all participants to this thread, but i find Arjay's formula too interesting to resist an
off topic. Given - as i do understand it - that Your formula "matter=energy=consciousness" implies the
existence of a continuum, how, then, would You propose its working dynamics?
By a vibrational frequency, perhaps?
jb Mirabile-caruso.
Quandry: What to call this kind of lovemaking?
I am attracted to both of these terms as well as to Karezza.
Conscious Energetic Coupling feels very descriptive to me. I do feel a tremendous energy when I'm with a woman. I also like the idea that the Coupling is both Energetic and Conscious (purposeful, intentional)
Magnetic Melding reminds me of Magnetation. I like the imagery of melding, magnetation.
Some good suggestions. Thanks, Arjay.
William
Call it Karezza (with "reservations")
Karreza has that certain sound and flair, so important in creating a meme and implanting it into people's minds and spirits.
It's a catchy word with a real meaning, albeit in Italian. Thus there are no negative connotations and maybe a few subliminal positive ones, based upon the sound. People will wonder, "what's this all about?"
That said, the first principle should probably be speak to a person's understanding. New Ager? Use an appropriate term. Born Again Christian? Do the same. Etc.
Best of all, Karreza ought to be a term in the Public Domain.
On the other hand, taking a tip from the current Media Lords who rule by defining the terms and thus the debate, we might want to call it "Love."
Learning From the Mistakes of Others 101:
Libertarianism: Political party that has never gone anyplace real, despite some wonderful ideas, mainly because seven syllables is four too many. As a word, it also has tiptoes over certain rather "goofy" connotations for many people.
Distributism: A wonderful socio-economic model that never attracted much attention for much the same reasons.