Who Are We?

We need a new word. This word is to describe a person, male or female who is practicing being non-orgasmic. Let's do it, let's find the right words. I think it's actually quite important.
http://www.reuniting.info/node/300
I'd like a term that describes being non-orgasmic, but doesn't have to do with love-making.
Another way you could say this is that what we're looking for is not another term for "karezza."
http://www.reuniting.info/node/3281

Abstinent - just doesn't have any appeal at all for me, and I'd imagine most other people as well.
Acknowledgers

Conscious Exchange
Conscious Lovers - we are learning how to avoid Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. We are all at different stages, but we are more conscious than when we started, and we will become more conscious lovers as we each continue on the path of learning. It's not just about avoiding orgasm. We are learning how to be fulfilled without orgasm.
Continent - just doesn't have any appeal at all for me, and I'd imagine most other people as well.

Do-No-Harm Lovers

Freedom Lovers - instead of "freedom fighters" our sexual choices keep ourself and our mate free from addiction. Ronnie R. and his Contra/Mujahadeen cohorts would spin in their graves.

Intercoursae

Karezzers - Karezzians (Not Kardasians!). Years ago I characterized common sex and karezza with one word each: "friction" and "exchange". Karezza is "intercourse" in the truest sense of the word.
Knowers - I prefer the Biblical term "know" for intercourse which I believe is an acurate description of karezza. It's in the moments of quiet and stillness that we get to "know" our mate, not during the typical dopamine roller coaster ride.

Non-orgasmic - but that's a negative. I'd suggest that it'd be a catchier, more powerful term if it was phrased in the positive. Non-orgasmic sounds like self-denial, and we want to focus on what we're going for - the benefits - not what we're stopping or avoiding.
I don't have a problem with non-orgasmic in the same way that I don't have a problem with
non-smoker. I guess I could call myself a "pure air breather". If we learn how to be fulfilled
without orgasm, with or without a partner, we won't feel deprived. We could say we are
"orgasm free" like we say someone is "smoke free" when they quit smoking.

Post Rollers - no longer dop seekers
Pre-Orgasmic - One tantric teacher refers to it as "pre-orgasmic."

Reuniters - we are all individual healers of the eternal rift between the sexes

Solo Cultivation Practitioner - doesn't have the same ring to it.

Tender Lovers
Transorgasmic - I guess if I had to pick, I'd choose Franscisco Moreno's term: transorgasmic. http://www.reuniting.info/wisdom/transorgsmic_sex Maybe it could work for singles, too. After all, they can achieve definite benefits from circulating sexual energy on their own.
Transexual- damn, that one's already taken

Vessel Holders - I like the Biblical term "possess your vessel" for singles or couples as it contains the idea of consciously choosing to care for yourself or each other and not simply "getting off" by yourself or using each other to "get off".

We Who Wish to See You Clearly - WWWSYC's, WeeSics, Whe6er's, Wee Sixers (No! mine's bigger than that), Wee Sexers. After all, the goal of this practice is to clear perception rather than see others through a haze of projections born of feelings of lack.

Some other thoughts to create a name -
orgasm or bliss -- do-no-harm loving -- orgasm or peace -- make love not war

Comments

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Submitted by Marnia on Sat, 2010-01-30 15:11.

it might be good to enable comments for this wiki. It seems "Conscious Loving" is taken, so "Conscious Lovers" might cause undue confusion.
http://www.consciousloving.com/Introduction/introduction.shtml

Submitted by Aphrodites Chela on Sat, 2010-01-30 18:01.

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Submitted by Daffy Duck on Wed, 2010-02-10 14:25.

is a verb. But Reuniting is also a noun now.

Re-Union
Reuniting
Reunited

For some reason...I like this one too... "Non-Local Exchange" (NLE)

Exchange would indicate there's give and take going on but
Union indicates ...well... uniting

United Exchange

Connective Re-Union
Connective ReUniting
Re-Uniting

Or maybe three words or so that would end up being a really cool ACRONYM or something.
Ecstatic, Energetic, Exchange
REAL - Reuniting, Exchange, and Love

We don't have to have a word that already exists, we can make up our own word.

US - United Sexuality
???

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Submitted by Marnia on Wed, 2010-02-10 14:41.

If anyone gets a "hit" that something is the right answer, please chime in.

Submitted by Cole on Thu, 2010-02-11 20:01.

One idea I had is superorgasmic.

Let me explain. Because the meaning of "super" has changed meanings over the last one hundred years, this may not work. However, the meaning of "super" is to be over, above, and beyond something. So, "Superman" is great and beyond what it means to be a man. However, now days super generally is understood to mean, "a whole lot more of" it. Supersize a drink means you get a bigger drink, you don't get a drink that is better and greater than your ordinary drink.

So the original meaning of it would be "Beyond orgasm," but it probably won't work because most people would read that as "a really powerful orgasm." The only positive for that is, it would catch people's attention. But they might feel let down once they found out what we meant.

Another one that came to me: Deepgasm. Might embody the concept of taking orgasm in a different direction, not so surface level, but to a deeper level.

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Submitted by Marnia on Thu, 2010-02-11 21:12.

that makes me think that "supRAorgasmic" would make some sense. Kinda too subtle though, I suppose.