Porn recovery - Day 14 - Wet Dream :(
Hello all,
I am a single 27 year old male who was addicted to porn/masturbation from the age of 14. I have been having orgasms every 2-3 days (on average) since that time. Two weeks ago (to the day), I stopped porn/masturbation cold turkey. During these two weeks I went through some of the worst withdrawal symptoms you can imagine: extreme depression, extreme anxiety, suicidal thoughts, extremely emotional, very stressed out, lack of sleep, lack of concentration, etc. Anyways, last night I had two wet dreams. I know for sure that one of them included orgasm. This is tearing me up inside, as I really felt that the two week dopamine cycle had just concluded. (I even feel that I experienced that last little dip in dopamine right before it normalizes again)
Questions:
Does this mean I am going to go through the withdrawal symptoms all over again? (I don't know if I can take it.)
How can I prevent myself from having wet dreams in the future?
The only thing I could possibly attribute the wet dreams to, is heavy weight lifting. After you lift weights your testosterone levels shoot up quite high. I have read here that it could possibly be the body trying to lower its testosterone levels.
Anyways, I just want to feel normal again, as I have no clue how that feels anymore since technically my dopamine levels haven't been normal since before the age of 14. This morning when I woke up I started having cravings to watch porn/jerk off. Either my brain is feeling hopeless and is trying to justify jerking off to porn, or I am truly starting the withdrawal process all over again. Part of me feels like I should just give up, since my body apparently is going to ejaculate with or without my approval.
Please help me look at this in a positive light.
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Actually, Ninja
you are doing quite well. I know it's frustrating when a crash comes. But think of how many years you devoted to throwing your brain *out* of equilibrium. It's simply going to take some time to reverse the process. And I suspect you will be very pleased with yourself when you succeed. You will know that you can do anything!
It's hard to say what your second cycle will look like. Yes, there will probably be more days of withdrawal, but there will probably be good days, too, where the progress will be obvious. Recovery is not linear. The ups and downs continue for a while...like a pendulum.
Sounds like you have one advantage. You weren't orgasming every day, right? That may make the recovery smoother.
You know the list of things that can ease withdrawal symptoms, right? Exercise seems to be one of the most powerful. So is friendly social interaction. Time in nature, meditation, playing music, singing or being creative. And so forth. http://www.reuniting.info/node/2058
The good news is that these things can be good life habits, not just emergency measures, so even though you "don't feel like it" (believe me, we know that), try some of these things.
Keep us posted. Journaling the ups and downs to sympathetic listeners also seems to help.
*big hug*
A lot of your fear and
anxiety may be related to your anticipatory feelings about what may come with regards to this hangover. Just remember that billions of humans all around the planet are all having sex right now and going in and out of mood swings, perhaps some because of the post orgasm response, others who knows why.
Anyway, I have had tons of wet dreams, and, I don't know of any way to stop them as they especially come when one seems to be abstaining. But, I do know they are totally normal and there is no need to be afraid of them or your perception about the after affects. For the most part any post orgasm effects for me after the wet dream do not seem to be as bad.
I think when I was your age, not too long ago, I was probably having orgasms from MB a few times a week. I started reading a lot of spiritual literature and decided I did not really want to continue down that path and slowly weaned off. So, it will only get better with time. I then went a week, then two weeks, then even more, and after a while did not even notice it, and, the cravings went away. I also used the 12 steps and admitted I was powerless over the cravings, and, if and when desire did come on I would lay down on the couch and let go any images and words, then surrender to the feeling which if you let go of any words you do not even give it a name. This is the letting go technique and as you welcome the feelings without labeling them or resisting them, even welcoming them, they start to air out like they are coming out of a pressure cooker that needs to have an outlet and is limited in its energy, so it can run out. So, you can either act out, suppress or let go through surrender. Look up the Sedona Method and that will give you some ideas. All while doing this I would ask a higher power to help take on this energy and be with it as it runs out. It may come in waves but eventually it runs out and you don't notice it as much, then it disappears all together.
Also, you can look at purchasing some Relora from Source Naturals or (Theanine Serene with Relora) which has helped me and from those that report POIS (post orgasmic illness syndrome) it seems to be the top product that people have found helpful. I think it works well because it counteracts cortisol so when you are freaking out and resisting all these feelings you label negative it may help because there may be elevated cortisol levels due to the stress, maybe from the resisting.
So, like they say in Zen, the willow tree survives the storm because it bends with the winds, while the oak tree snaps because it is stiff and resists. Be like the willow tree during the storm, as it too shall pass