End of week 5

It's the end of week 5, and I am looking for a little bit of energy. A lot has changed. I worked out very vigoursly the last few days, which I haven't done in years, so I am feeling a little depleted. When I got done exercising the other day, I thought "this is the best I have felt in almost 2 years." I am a little worried about what I might do to screw it all up.

When I began the experiment of abstaining from MB five weeks ago (tomorrow would be Day 35), I had no idea about this website. I was doing it mostly to increase personal discipline and to seek a little extra energy and motivation. My wife and I had experimented with this in the past, with me abstaining for 7-10 day periods over the course of a few weeks, but I NEVER thought I would go 35 or more days.

It was only after I found this website (at about Day 12?) that I thought this could be more of a relationship builder and less of a fun game. To be sure, I have made some personal gains over the last few weeks, addressing neglected areas of my life (e.g., exercise, diet, sleep habits, better attitude, doctor and dental appointments, etc.), but recently my wife has started to buy into this as a relationship builder. Because of her preganancy (we are having a c-section shortly), she has not been physcially up to intercourse. Although it was never part of the original plan, she has started to abstain, it has now been about a week for her.

One of the biggest changes that I have noticed is that we are much closer at bedtime, which comforts me and helps me sleep better. We used to be close like this, but then kids and life got to be a disruption. We have bonded a lot more and slowed down and enjoyed each other's affection. We feel that our relationship is much more ready for the new baby (maybe that is some subconsious motivation for us---getting ready for a change in our family).

My wife and I have been much more communicative about where all of this is going. Right now her sex drive is low due primarily to hormones and physical discomfort. Most of the time, I think I would like to continue abstaining until she is more able to enjoy things. Right now, we are taking things a few days/weeks at a time. We have toyed with the idea of abstaining from an "O" (both of us) until she is recovered from her surgery toward the end of April, which sounds daunting.

Are there really benchmarks/dates by which you start to feel different? I am definately lees hyper than I was the first couple of weeks, but still get worked up and tempted pretty easily. I have heard that biology rewires after six months. What do others feel about this? I am assuming that you don't have to totally abstain for six months to experience this? How many O's would be too many? How does frequency factor in? Maybe I will find out. I don't want to fall off the wagon.