Dreaming of Porn

Submitted by Ready on Tue, 2010-03-30 16:42
Withdrawal symptoms

Hey Everyone,

Im new to the site. First off, its a wonderful site and im so happy i came across it. A little about me. Ive been addicted to porn and masturbation for about 8 years. Im now 23 years old. I finally came to the conclusion that i am an addict after years of denial and realizing i couldn't stop when i wanted to.

Well im on the road to recovery, I decided that i had enough and i have been porn and masturbation free for 20 days so far. For the most part i have been having the typical occasional urge and have resisted t. I have a new energy about life and i have felt centered and at peace for the first time in a very long time.

I have a question though, for the past week i have been having dreams about porn, me watching porn or having sex with a woman and ejaculating constantly. I always think its real and fear that i have relapsed back to my old habit. Not until i wake up am i relieved that it was just a dream.

Is this normal? Does it reset the brain per se? am i indirectly not getting rid of my addiction as a result of these dreams? I just really want to stop dreaming about it. Has anyone else experience this? thanks for reading. Any feedback is appreciated.

Submitted by Harmony on Tue, 2010-03-30 19:25.

I have had those same two experiences while abstaining. I don’t think it is anything to worry about.

Submitted by Seeker on Tue, 2010-03-30 20:01.

This happened to me just this past Sunday. No It does not set you back. I have in the past let it push me to masturbation again though. This time I did not. Although I have had to fight off some porn images in my head today. Much stronger than they have been in months.
might be or most likely is related to my dream.

Congrats on 20 days and figuring this out at your age. That is way ahead of me. It took me till I was 36 to figure out what you have already at 23.

You sound good and you are doing well.
Keep us posted on your progress
wishing you well
Be Safe
James

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Submitted by Marnia on Wed, 2010-03-31 07:35.

Congratulations on your progress. Yeah, those dreams are normal. The brain is pretty sneaky about trying to urge you toward habitual "rewards." So glad you're noticing improvements. The next phase is to find "equilibrium." Have you checked out the "Solo Practices" on the Wiki page? Or do you have a partner? (If so, check out the "Lazy Way to Stay in Love" on the home page.

Blog if you like. I just enabled you.

Submitted by Ready on Wed, 2010-03-31 18:53.

thanks for the comments. really appreciate it. Where exactly can i find the Solo practices on the forum? Also when do i know i am in equilibrium? through these 20 days it has been so weird. It feels like i can't get an erection to save my life. I only have ones during the night or when i wake up in the morning.

Im just waiting patiently, because i really want to feel the natural feeling again of getting an erection naturally without any porn or phsyical (my hand) aid.

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Submitted by Marnia on Wed, 2010-03-31 18:57.

Solo Practices
http://www.reuniting.info/node/3299

Be patient. Eventually your brain will start looking around for the thrills it evolved to seek. It's probably just a bit baffled at the moment. smiley

Submitted by ikickurshoe on Wed, 2010-03-31 19:08.

I have had dreams were I am watching porn. Not even having sex with the porn star or with a girl. But dreaming myself watching porn... needless to say it is strange.

Submitted by Courage on Thu, 2010-04-01 07:38.

You guys can add me to the list as well. I've had many wet dreams of me just watching porn and sometimes I end up participating in the end. Very strange indeed and I think it shows to what extent this addiction has affected me. It seems I've taught my brain that thats where the action is, porn not reality.