Stealth Karezza

Stealth Karezza Works! If you want to try Karezza, but your partner isn't interested, there are still some affectionate, bonding behaviors you can do. Over time and with daily application, you will notice a stronger relationship with your partner. Often they will too.

Some ideas:

A daily hug for no reason at all.

A kiss that's just a kiss, not a prelude to something more.

A hand on his/her shoulder, not caressing, just being there, supporting.

Words of affirmation.

Reaching out and taking his/her hand when talking, even when arguing. (Just try and get angry with someone who is holding your hand and looking gently into your eyes.)

A quick smile.

A wink when nobody else is looking.

A coupon for a free back rub.

A note on their pillow mentioning a "little" anniversary (like the date you two started dating).

A comment on how good (s)he looks.

A morning cup of coffee served in bed.

Little gallantries: holding the door, helping her with her coat.

Flowers (not the guilt kind).

But, whatever else you choose to do, don't forget the daily hug. The rest is icing.

Let's be clear here. Even if your affectionate hugs are in the form of one-way or stealth karezza, the effect is on BOTH partners. On a daily basis you will probably not notice the effect on yourself. It may not ever be apparent to you, but watch for comments from people close to you. If someone comments how stressed you USED to look, then they are seeing a calmer you NOW.

If you have your partner's conscious cooperation, try some of these playful activities for couples: http://www.reuniting.info/download/pdf/Bonding.Behaviors.pdf