Random thoughts and aversion therapies

Submitted by pure_kinetics on Fri, 2010-04-16 21:40
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Greetings. Thank you for this website with access to this collection of information. I would like to know if any individuals have had success with aversion therapies as it relates to sexual behaviors. I have read Ms. Robinson's text and found it to be worth the time. However, I am in disagreement with the human condition of the requirement of "pair-bonding". I am a Christian and the Bible also supports pair-bonding. Nevertheless, it is my ultimate goal to find contentment in solitude. I feel that if I do not want to participate in procreation and intimate relationships I should not be penalized for it. I would rather prefer to focus my time on independent endeavors such as academic study, diet, exercise, and community service. According to my faith, my body does not belong to me, as it was paid for a price. In this case, I am not permitted to have castration performed as it not my body to alter (although I am circumcised). In this case I have been searching for tangible suitable alternatives. I have had success with applying a solution of cayenne pepper paste to my genitals when I become aroused. I would not recommend this to anyone else without prior medical approval. I would like to know if there are any portable electrode units that can be installed to my genitals that could create a quick, safe electrical shock on demand if I find I am becoming aroused away from home. Thank you for your time if you have read this post. Regards.

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Submitted by Marnia on Fri, 2010-04-16 23:28.

Sorry, I know nothing about that...or why you would want to use such techniques. I guess if I were determined to be celibate, I'd experiment with the techniques that call for learning to recirculate sexual desire. Personally, I think that would be wiser than trying to repress desire. We've been collecting some solo practices from various traditions here:
Solo Practices
http://www.reuniting.info/node/3299

Just out of curiosity...have you prayed about your decision, or simply made up your own mind?

Submitted by Cole on Sat, 2010-04-17 21:58.

being one myself, there are two routes by which the Bible describes we give of ourselves, in marriage or fully in service to God, otherwise traditionally known as monasticism. In either case, the objective is to not just live unto yourself, creating an inward cycle of selfishness, but in love, give of yourself to someone else, whether that is a spouse, children, or just to God and all people.

While the methods for avoiding masturbation may seem like shortcut methods of forcing yourself to avoid it, as is dumping cold water on your genitals, what ultimate needs to happen is to learn self-control and contentment as it regards the physical desire to masturbate to orgasm. IOW, you feel it, you let it go, but you don't obey its demand to be satisfied. Just as if you were on a diet and really wanted that piece of chocolate cake, you have to learn that saying no isn't the worst thing in the world that could ever happen to you.

In those things, there is no overnight cure. Rather, it takes weeks, months, even years of practice and God's help. If one keeps at it and doesn't give up, eventually you train your body that it isn't lord of your life, and it has to walk according to the Spirit rather than than according to its demands. And learning to be content in the midst of it saying, "I want some, NOW!" is when you have overcome that.

I'd start with food. Do you fast? And it doesn't have to be a total fast from everything, it can be fast from certain foods, like meat, dairy, etc. Whatever it is your "addicted" to when it comes to food. Train your body to obey you when it comes to what it eats, and it will be easier to train in in whether it fulfills the sexual demands as well.