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I've been working really hard this week. I had a late night followed by a business meeting in a part of town close to where I used to visit a brothel. On the way home I was really tired. I've been really good for over a month. No porno, no prostitutes, karezza with my wife regularly. But, tell you the truth I was tempted as I drove past, but I didn't go in.
I am so happy because when I got home we had great karezza sex and I swear my wife looked more even more attractive than usual somehow. Also, I relaxed and we had a good sleep afterwards, unlike the kind of fitful (guilty conscience) sleep I would have had if I'd followed my mammalian brain. It just shows though how I'm a creature of habit. I mean I've only just stopped after 8 years of being a regular user of porn and prostitutes.
It's not only about avoiding porno, its also about avoiding scenarios that in the past have led me to have risky sex. I've learnt something. I hope it's useful.
Today I spent the money I saved on a little present for my wife.
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Comments
Nice story. Those triggers
Nice story. Those triggers are heavy for sure. Good Job pulling out of that and directng it to something worthwhile.
The good and bad
aspects of having a plastic brain are perfectly expressed here.
Well done!
It's helpful to successfully avoid and then be rewarded for it, just to drill it into the brain what is really needed. Many more!
WoW! Nice job, what a
WoW! Nice job, what a caring thing to do for both of you! I am glad you also decided to celebrate it with a special gift.
Sometimes I think the habits are harder to recover from, in any kind of addiction, than the chemical dependency. Eventually the chemical dependency subsides, but habits take a long time to change. Triggers just automatically starts the programming we installed as we repeated a behavior, till it finally became a habit.
Keep up the good work Brenmal, keep interrupting that habit, and the triggers will fade.
Regards,
NP