Day 1.. Again

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Messed up last night, don't even know what happened, I couldnt sleep and I think the images of the lesbian
porn movie I viewed took over and I couldn't stop thinking about it, it was like the Dopamine just took over
and I had to watch it and.. Well, you know the rest.
I felt awful afterwards, had a headache for 2 hours and still couldn't sleep.

I did learn a valuable lesson though, my head will do anything to trick me and make me believe anything
to get a sneek peek, then it will keep replaying said peek in my head until I view the porn and get my
fix.
My head/the dopamine kept telling me I was bisexual/gay until I masturbated to a video with two
women in, then I felt like it was laughing at me and shouting "You fell for it!"

Although I failed, I did learn a thing or two and now I'll get back on my horse and aim for another
nine weeks.

63 days to go.

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I am ONLY curious, is there some special reason you chose 9 weeks? I am always on the look out for various cycles, so wondering if you have one in mind.

I chose nine weeks because six weeks is considered the right amount of time to rebalance the Dopamine, so I want to add more time to the suggested amount just to be sure. I don't understand what you mean by "cycle" though, I'm doing this to rebalance my dopamine, I don't plan to abstain from ejaculating for nine week periods for the rest of my life, I just want to get my addiction under control and my Dopamine back to normal so I can have a healthy relationship with a girl in the future and live free from this addiction.

I don't plan to watch porn again or masturbate regularly, but I do intend to have sex in the future, I disagree with avoiding sex, but
thats just my opinion. I've seen on various porn addiction websites that people who can "beat" the addiction, can go on to have healthy, normal sex lives with little chance of the addiction resurfacing as long as they are careful and do not over-stimulate themselves on a regular basis, or of course, view porn ever again.
Some sites members even say that masturbating before a year or two has passed or even ever again is a bad idea also, simply because you could re-surface some thoughts about porn, but I don't know about that though, simply because different sites say different things, but one theme is extremely common, you have to kick the porn forever and abstain from all ejaculating for up to two months on average to clear the addiction. (On reunting this is called getting the Dopamine back to normal, other sites used words like "Healing" and "Clearing" but its basically the same principle.)

But one common theme is that by abstaining from porn and masturbation for a long time, you lose the desire to watch it and regain a healthy sexual appetite. Of course, I only learned the science behind this on reuniting, but even before I came here, I read stories of the same thing on other porn addiction websites, but words like "Dopamine" and such weren't used, but people did have very similar success stories to the ones on this site by abstaining, people got their lives back and became happy people, thats what I want for me.

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Now you know how powerful triggers can be. Even if you control yourself through sheer force of will, your brain keeps jacking up those cravings until you go for it. It is indeed sneaky.

And just for the record, we don't advocate going without sex indefinitely either. smiley This website is dedicated to another approach to lovemaking, but sex is definitely part of it.

Good luck staying on your horse. Did you check out the Wiki on relapse (or "fresh cycles" smiley ). If the cravings surface again soon it might be helpful.

Thanks Marnia smiley
I learned some important things this time around that I think will help greatly in my new attempt at conquering this, even
though I relapsed, I think it has helped me in the long run.

I know this site isn't anti-sex, I think its great that you've got a different angle towards affection for you're partner, I was simply
stating that I plan to enjoy my life the way I want to once I've got my Dopamine levels back to normal, and I won't let my addiction change the way I want to do things, because then I haven't beaten it if I have to alter my life in a significant way. Other than giving up porn, obviously, which to be honest I don't want anything to do with ever again and I'm sure I can live without it, I don't need it, my head just thinks I need it.

And I'll check out the articles on relapse, thanks. smiley

I see what you mean. Good choice of nine weeks.