Day 3

Submitted by 20UK on Sun, 2010-07-11 07:46
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porn addiction recovery

Hey guys, just doing a quick update.
I had a relapse, which lasted about a day, it wasnt great and I felt disapointed, but I'm learning as I
go along, I'm at Day 3 again now, but I've got some pretty good news. smiley

First of all, I've met an amazing, beautiful girl who I have a real connection with, I'm thinking about her
a lot, but trying to play it smiley, as I don't want to come off too over-eager smiley

I've also got a job interview! So I'm a little nervous about that, but excited too.

Anyway, things are going pretty well for me right now smiley
Just need to keep my spirits up and hopefully, I'll be able to go 9 weeks this time!

Comments

Submitted by Dano_Clarke on Sun, 2010-07-11 08:55.

Good things come to those who wait. Good luck with the interview and your new beau. I found what works for me is not worrying so much about a goal. Although honestly for me that would be 3 weeks because I haven't gone longer than that without orgasm since I started coming around here. I do find if I just focus on the day to day...it's a lot easier to pile up days. I'm not one for competitions and I feel like when I set up goals and count days things go slower for me, but I know what works for me isn't what works for everyone else.

Keep up the good work!

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Submitted by Marnia on Sun, 2010-07-11 10:39.

Thanks for checking in. I was wondering how you were doing. That's all great news.

I know you haven't asked, but I'll volunteer a little tribal-elder advice here. smiley Remember, it's okay to take it slow with the girl. The more subconscious trust and openness you build up with the bonding behaviors, the longer the connection is likely to last. So don't try to use her like a scratching post (that's for cats, for those who don't know smiley ). Lots of smiles and hugs at first.

Hope the interview goes well. Bravo!

Submitted by 20UK on Mon, 2010-07-12 05:02.

Thanks for posting and the words of encouragment, etc. smiley

I always appreciate your tribal-elder advice, Marnia smiley The girl I've met is wonderful, she's so much fun, we have so much in common
its untrue, she's also really sweet and very beautiful. I'd rather this be more of a long-term thing than a quick fling, so you're
advice is very welcome. smiley

I have a little relationship anxiety, but I'm not worried, everything will be alright if I just keep abstaining for the nine weeks.

Day 4 is going quite well, I've got to accomplish this, my life will be so much better/happier, I've been reading a lot of
success stories and it sounds like people become extremely happy once the Dopamine is back to normal, thats my goal.

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Submitted by Marnia on Mon, 2010-07-12 11:54.

a new romance is a wonderful booster shot for overcoming withdrawal aches and pains...but of course it can also do what nature intended: make you impulsive and "sure you two will be the exception to all rules."

That said, have fun. We're really happy for you. smiley