Day 0 of 60 Day Abstinence Challenge
Hey guys, today is not the official start of the 60 day challenge since I said to myself that I wanted to start it when I wake up. Just going to write about some strategies I am consider doing to implement throughout the challenge, and hopefully they will carry over after the challange. I believe it is important to have at least some plan for tackling this. Many of us have come to the point where we find ourselves with a sex addiciton which we have struggled and failed countless times to overcome. This addicition did not come to be overnight- I was based on patterned behaviour we developed over months and years. Some of us did it in times of stress and anxiety as a way to take the edge off. Others started because it was pleasurable. Others because they were bored and others becuase they felt lonely and such activites provided artifical closure. To overcome it, we have to develop new patterns of carry out our day that replace the old behaviours leading to such behaviours. For example, anxiety and stress and becoming norms in everyday lives. Instead of engaging in masterbation, try exercising, meditation a relaxing bath, etc. Substitute a new response or habit for an old one. Obviously at first its going to be tough, but by being mentally tough you begin to break the linkage that leads to such behaviours.
Why do I have this addiciton? Not really sure. I guess its a combination of the reasons I discussed above. Obviously it is pleasurable to reach a climax. It also takes the edge off in stressful times. My basic strategy that I am formulating as I write this and will update as the days go on will be to try and fill my days with activites that do not allow me the time to feel bored, or the privacy to engage in such behaviours. I am going to force myself to read a book, or do some work around the house. When I feel tired Im going to take a nap. If I cant sleep im not going to begin thinking how to get thinking feeling of anxiety out of my head ( because you know what that leads to). Im going to do, do,do! Like the famous slogan goes- Just Do It! If I feel stressful i'll turn to exercise- lift some weights, get on the bike or go for a run. Mediation and deep breathing exercises will also be included to get te anxiety and stess out of me. Diet is also very important for a healthy mind. Im going to need my rationality and logic to be in full force, along with the mental energy. Much of that will come from a clean diet rich in lean meats, fruits and vegetables, with water, eggs, nuts and skim milk.
Sorry if this posts seems a little excess. I just dont want to talk to people I know about this problem and for the first time I feel that I am letting the cat out of the closet. and I have to say it feels good! Knowing that other people may be reading this and have an interest in whether or not I succeed will provide that extra piece of motivation and commitment when I have those days where I want to fall back to my previous lifestyle. Sorry if there are any spelling or grammer mistakes, I just let whatever was on my mind come out on the keyboard. Let me know what you think guys and if you have any other tips you can offer. I haven't been this excited about getting this problem under control in a long time, if ever.
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We're reading...and
we care if you succeed.
But I'll let the experts give you their advice.
What I don't see in your list is how you intend to increase your connections with others. Are you already socializing regularly?
Good luck, may you be strong
Good luck, may you be strong on this venture. Try not to frustrate yourself though, as the reminder of not doing it sometimes leads to wanting to.