so my fiance and i have been abstaining from sexual intercourse (sleeping in underwear, kissing without tongue, cradling genitals without caressing them) for a two week endeavor focusing on re-wiring my new found sensitivity from quitting porn/masturbation. i have noticed that simply placing a loving hand on each others genitals as we sleep has me waking up full of energy. i love it. but it has made my balls ache. like when i was a kid at the school dance. the feeling of just plain arousal and not taking it anywhere, let alone at top speed like i used to, has me giddy and pleased. i am madly in love with my fiance and the past five days of non-sex/non-orgasm oriented affection have been amazing.
on day five however we kind of slipped up. we were trying to cool ourselves down by holding each other in our hands, when we couldnt stop. we started moving slowly on each other until we just needed to connect. we couldnt help ourselves but it was amazing. i was still and calm inside of her and i did not feel like i had to fight orgasm. only a couple times did i recognize the falls and breathed out slowly, counting and holding and breathing. but when we decided we really should cool down before one of us lost control, i felt the pain in my balls. it got worse and it was hard to walk around comfortably. i now understand why cold showers exist. the pain went away after i stretched and did some quick isometrics to get my blood flowing. it seems like the energy i retained by not cumming needed to be circulated.
i have been thinking that they may also be aching because of the transition from porn/masturbation/instant gratification(1-3 times almost every day for fifteen years) addiction to being healthily naturally aroused and making non-orgasmic love.
i would greatly appreciate any feedback or advice in quelling the blue balls or lovers nuts.
thank you much
~i have a <3 on~