Importance of connection with lover

- Anxiety, cortisol, and attachment predict plasma oxytocin (higher oxytocin reduces anxiety where partner is supportive, but is accompanied by higher cortisol where there is distress and no attachment to partner)
- Effects of different kinds of couple interaction on cortisol and heart rate responses to stress in women (supportive touch, rather than verbal encouragement, lowers stress response in women)
- Warm Partner Contact Is Related to Lower Cardiovascular Reactivity (handholding and hugs lower stress response)
- Kissing reduces allergic skin wheal responses and plasma neurotrophin levels (kissing improved eczema and alleries)
- The influence of marital adjustment on 3-year left ventricular mass and ambulatory blood pressure in mild hypertension (quality of contact in marriage linked to increases/decreases in blood pressure over 3 years)
- Frequent Sex Can Reduce Risk Of Colds (moderate rates of intercourse are best for the immune system) Study:
Sexual frequency and salivary immunoglobulin A (IgA)
Charnetski CJ, Brennan FX.
Psychol Rep. 2004 Jun;94(3 Pt 1):839-44.
Department of Psychology, Wilkes University, Wilkes-Barre, PA 18766, USA. charnets@wilkes.edu
112 college students reported the frequency of their sexual encounters and were divided into four categories: none, infrequent (less than once a week), frequent (one to two times per week), and very frequent (three or more times per week). Participants also described their overall sexual satisfaction. Saliva samples were collected and assayed for salivary immunoglobulin A (IgA). Individuals in the frequent group showed significantly higher levels of IgA than the other three groups, which were comparable. Data on length of relationship and sexual satisfaction were not related to the group differences.
- Penile — vaginal intercourse is better: evidence trumps ideology (The ethical practice of sex therapy, education and research requires the elimination of prevailing sexological prejudices. Empirical research demonstrates that different sexual behaviours differ in many physiological and psychological domains. These differences are remarkably consistent in revealing an association between specifically penile-vaginal intercourse and indices of better physiological and psychological function.)
- Slimness is associated with greater intercourse and lesser masturbation frequency (Slimmer waist in men and in the sexes combined and slimmer hips in men and women were associated with greater penile-vaginal intercourse, and less with masturbation)
- Blood pressure reactivity to stress is better for people who recently had penile-vaginal intercourse than for people who had other or no sexual activity (Persons who reported penile-vaginal intercourse (but no other sexual activities) had better stress response (less reactivity and/or lower baseline levels) than persons reporting other or no sexual behaviors.)
- Sex may keep stress at bay (Penile/vaginal sex better for reducing stress than other types of sexual activity) Entire study
- A preliminary report relating frequency of vaginal intercourse to heart rate variability, Valsalva ratio, blood pressure, and cohabitation status (greater HRV and lower DBP were both associated with greater penile-vaginal intercourse - but not with masturbation or non-coital sex with a partner - in cohabiting subjects, but not in non-cohabiting subjects.)
- Vaginal intercourse frequency and heart rate variability (greater HRV was associated with greater penile-vaginal intercourse (but not masturbation or non-coital sex with a partner), but no change in DBP)
- Age at first intercourse is inversely related to female cortisol stress reactivity (women reporting earlier first intercourse had less intense cortisol increases in response to the stressor, and faster recovery from the stressor)
- Alexithymia Is Inversely Associated with Women's Frequency of Vaginal Intercourse (difficulty recognizing, identifying, and communicating emotions, reduced fantasy capacity, and an externally oriented cognitive style (alexithymia) associated with less penile-vaginal intercourse in women.)
- Intercourse Orgasm Consistency, Concordance of Women's Genital and Subjective Sexual Arousal, and Erotic Stimulus Presentation Sequence (penile-vaginal intercourse tends to help women synch up actual arousal with emotional arousal)
- Sex and death: are they related? Findings from the Caerphilly cohort study (Longer lives are associated with regular sex.)
This study is often billed as "proof that orgasm leads to longevity," but it confounds the benefits of intimacy with the benefits of orgasm. The men in this study were middle aged (45-59) at the start of a 10-year study, with results published in 1997. Almost all were married. The question proved so embarrassing that the men in the study asked that it be dropped part way through, so they may also have been unwilling to answer honestly. In any case, the question about sex did not isolate orgasm. In other words, masturbation wasn't addressed. So we don't know if those masturbating instead of having intercourse were better or worse off.
In short, although this study is much bandied about by orgasm enthusiasts, it is pretty shaky as proof of the benefits of orgasm. It may show that intimacy, or a better quality relationship, increases longevity. Many people in the subjects' age bracket generally aren't having sex at all, so those who were, were no doubt better off...but not necessarily because of the orgasms.
- Depression-Like Behavior and Stressor-Induced Neuroendocrine Activation in Female Prairie Voles Exposed to Chronic Social Isolation (isolation in a socially monogamous rodent induces both behavioral and neuroendocrine changes that are relevant to depression)
- Social stimuli cause changes of plasma oxytocin and behavior in guinea pigs (plasma oxytocin levels synch up in cohabiting pairs)
- Prognostic importance of marital quality for survival of congestive heart failure (marital quality is statistically significant in the prediction of patient mortality)
- Stable partnership and progression to AIDS or death in HIV infected patients receiving highly active antiretroviral therapy: Swiss HIV cohort study (stable partnership is associated with a slower rate of AIDS or death in HIV infected patients)
Overview of effects of oxytocin
The research listed here does not prove that controlled intercourse grants the benefits listed here. None of this research was done on controlled intercourse. However, this research does suggest that there are potential health gains from behavior that emphasizes the steady production of oxytocin. By implication, the affectionate, caring contact of the type emphasized in the Ecstatic Exchanges (from Peace Between the Sheets) is likely to promote the presence and benefits of oxytocin.
- Oxytocin has dose-dependent developmental effects on pair-bonding and alloparental care in female prairie voles (size dose of oxytocin changes behaviors)
Here's abstract:
The present study examines the developmental consequences of neonatal exposure to oxytocin on adult social behaviors in female prairie voles (Microtus ochrogaster). Female neonates were injected within 24 h of birth with isotonic saline or one of four dosages of oxytocin (OT). As adults, females were tested in an elevated plus-maze paradigm (a measure of anxiety and exploratory behavior), and for alloparental behavior and partner preferences. At 2 mg/kg OT, females took longer to approach pups, but were the only group to form a statistically significant within-group partner preference. At 4 mg/kg OT, females retrieved pups significantly more frequently but no longer displayed a partner preference; while females treated developmentally with 8 mg/kg spent significantly more time in side-to-side contact with a male stranger than any other treatment group. OT may have broad developmental consequences, but these effects are not linear and may both increase and decrease the propensity to display behaviors such as pair-bonding.
- Neuro Endocrinol Lett. 2009 Aug 26;30(3):335-342. [Epub ahead of print] "Oxytocin and carbetocin effects on spontaneous behavior of male rats modulation by oxytocin receptor antagonists. (oxytocin administered via peripheral injection does cross blood/brain barrier)
- Oxytocin may mediate the benefits of positive social interaction and emotions (oxytocin may explain benefits of touch therapies, social interaction, and meditation)
- More frequent partner hugs and higher oxytocin levels are linked to lower blood pressure and heart rate in premenopausal women. (frequent hugs between spouses/partners are associated with lower blood pressure and higher oxytocin levels in premenopausal women)
- Oxytocin, a mediator of anti-stress, well-being, social interaction, growth and healing (positive interaction involving touch and psychological support may be health-promoting due to oxytocin, oxytocin production increases sensitivity to oxytocin)
- The oxytocin receptor system: structure, function, and regulation (oxytocin has far reaching effects on mind and body)
- Oxytocin stimulates its own production by activating oxytocin receptors, which stimulate cells to produce more oxytocin. Kerstin Uvnäs Moberg, The Oxytocin Factor (Cambridge: Da Capo Press, 2003) pp. 60, 61
Counters infection and allergic reaction, speeds healing
Counters addiction and overeating
Counters stress and improves maternal behavior
Pain reduction
Counters depression
Inhibits cancer
Sexual receptivity and erectile health
Miscellaneous benefits associated with oxytocin
Trust associated with higher levels of oxytocin
Monogamy (which is associated with increased longevity and better health)
More Research
Evolution, mating and bonding
Limbic system and reward circuitry
Post-coital hangover
Potential health risks
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