Submitted by imnotcoming on Fri, 2011-08-12 12:00
This thread continues from here.
I am going to post two comments that I wanted to respond to, and then keep going with updates.
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Submitted by imnotcoming on Tue, 2011-08-02 18:10
Here is the recap for Actor Guy.
Last Tuesday, he told me in an email that he had a big crush on me. Tuesday night was when I was all uncomfortably turned on (see comment in this thread), but fortunately I was going to see him the next day and I knew we would make contact since I felt bold enough to make a move if necessary.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Sun, 2011-07-24 01:48
So, my current roommate was also my roommate 5 years ago in college and we have a lot of fun talking about boys. Men. I'm trying to use the word men now.
She was an advocate of Actor Guy since he first wrote to me on OkCupid, whereas initially I didn't think I would be attracted to him. Now, I've decided he's cute and she's all excited about it. Our conversations are like, Me: I'm gonna make out! Her: You're gonna make out! Me: Yay! Her: Yay! (It's probably really annoying to listen to us.)
Submitted by imnotcoming on Fri, 2011-07-22 23:45
Last week I went out with an actor guy and I ended up talking to him about Cupid's Poisoned Arrow on the phone last night. He seemed smart and open-minded so I was comfortable talking about it. He was curious about it and ordered the book.
The way I phrased it was that I tend to experiment with unconventional solutions and this is the next experiment I want to do. So that way I didn't have to sound like I was propositioning him, or delivering a premature ultimatum, especially since I'm not sure if there are serious feelings on either side.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Wed, 2011-07-20 23:08
I haven't looked at porn or had an orgasm in about 40 days. I wasn't addicted - I just never had a reason to want to quit since it all seemed healthy and moderate. My experience since quitting is nothing as crazy as what the men on here describe, but there are vague echoes of it.
I did notice some marked horniness (during sexy movie scenes) in the first two or three weeks that faded to a more comfortable level in week four and beyond. No flatline at all.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-11 18:11
This is continued from this discussion: http://www.reuniting.info/node/6901
Well, that artsy guy wandered off. 
But I have a date tomorrow night. I'm not excited but my roommate told me to go because she liked his messages.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-04 12:51
Ok so. I am actively meeting people on OkCupid.
I decided I would feel comfortable talking about karezza on a second date. I'm pretty experienced at TMI/oversharing and I can usually make someone comfortable with me (or if he didn't seem comfortable and open, I would hold off).
But I need to know from the men, how should I present this idea? Should I put more emphasis on how I have personally chosen to forego orgasms because of the benefits to my reward circuitry or more on the loving connection I am looking for in a partner? Or what?
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-04 12:22
Hi, my name is imnotcoming. I've been lurking here for a few months and reading my copy of Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. I have decided to start a blog at wordpress rather than here, because it's more a of a writing project for me, but I'll be participating in the forums, too.
Thanks, Marnia and Gary, for this material. This is the most important thing I've read in the past few years. I'm much more optimistic about my dating future now.
Submitted by carriedawaytoan... on Tue, 2010-03-23 08:13
It was sometime at the end of last year that I ran across the Cupid's poisoned arrow blog, I had been experiencing problems in my relationship with my partner, and nothing I had read up to that point had been anything I wanted to hear.
I will have been with my boyfriend 4 years in May, he is my first and only boyfriend, the problem was that I am a high level libido and he is a low level libido. I wanted sex all the time, morning, noon and night, the best my boyfriend could offer was once a week.
Submitted by creepycriature on Wed, 2010-02-03 03:20
Most of times I am walking on the street and see the posters of naked woman in the kiosks (yes, in my country at least things are like this) I feel like hit by a punch. Right on the stomach. (And the liosks are there, in every corner). It really hurts. This is been lasting since I knew definetely of my boyfriend´s addiction. I feel sad about the pain (which feels so real) and for my changed relation about the female body. It´s like sometimes I feel disgusted by female bodies. The more sexually attractive it is, the more I feel sick about it, it´s like it makes me want to vomit. Very sad.
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