It has been five years now of experimenting with Peace karezza in our 18-year relationship. At first my wife resented me taking away her pleasure. So I said, OK let's play with it and see what happens. Two years ago we were on the verge of divorce after having gone back entirely to standard western fucking. Then I restarted the program again in spite of resentment blocks. Staying married also depended upon taking vows very seriously and surrendering to the Universe.

All those delightful bonding behaviours! My wife and I were breezing along delightfully, choosing our daily activities and seemingly getting more and more fond of each other. Then, a hiccup occurred. We had visitors for three weeks; and then we went on a walking trip which always had one other person besides ourselves in attendance. During this time, we abandoned our ’choices’ regime.

I haven't said how much finding this website really means to me. It's hard to put into words anyway, but Marnia and Gary should still know it's not something I'd just take for granted. Quite frankly, it's new hope. For months I went through these phony religious and semi-religious websites (God doesn't want you to look at porn!; Pray and you shall be set free!; Connections between porn industry and sex crime rate are either evident or not; The Devil puts porn into your head and you'll turn into a serial killer now; 12-step program to become a gutless eunuch; etc; etc).

[From a couple trying the Exchanges from Peace Between the Sheets]

Here a lot is happening, very gently and subtly. This is only a brief feedback of what we are living and finding.

We are at Exchange 6 and sleeping with T-Shirt and underwear in bed(?!?). You won't believe it - we don't know what is going on either, but it is very easy and just very touching and simple. We are just mindblown. We are totally in love, carried, led, held, embraced. Something huge is moving us very gently and we are experiencing something very similar, both of us, not very easily expressible. (The piece has even become bigger, stronger, gentler, it is not only between the sheets it is everywhere, all around us, inside of us, uuuhhh!!!)

I am in my 20’s and live in Colombia. Your site has clarified a lot of doubts for me. Let me explain my story. When I was 18, I had a girlfriend with whom I began practicing controlled intercourse. We had passed through a religious group similar to Samael Aun Weor's, and although we learned a lot, we felt that the vision of doom related to sex was too harsh. Anyway, we practiced without even knowing techniques, just by intuition.

Without realizing it we found our bodies and minds were healed in a profound way. Later, we found that a LOT of books were teaching something similar to what we experienced, and that those techniques were more common than we thought. That was when confusion came through the door: too many definitions of something that's very personal. They were talking about orgasms without ejaculation and things that seemed different to what we had experienced, and aimed to have more physical pleasure. We broke up and things changed a lot for both of us - for the worse.

I found tantric, non-orgasmic love "by accident." For some time I had had awful, long-lasting headaches after orgasm and decided that, rather than abstaining from sex, I would enjoy massaging and giving pleasure to my wife and try to have as much pleasure myself from that as I could, hoping not to go crazy with frustration.

Tonight will be the eighth or ninth exchange. I am very very happy to say we are bonding in such a sweet way my feet are not quite reaching the ground during the day.. From my perception we are experiencing love and intimacy.. It's beautiful, magic, juicy, yummy! There is a huge difference from when we were going at it like rabbits. Just the way she hugs and touches me. Personally I have always believed that I am capable of being in an inspiring relationship.... I think it was really worth the wait for this opportunity. (Male reader)

I have always been greatly bothered by knowing that my husband believes orgasm is natural and no problem, although he has never given me any sort of pressure to try regular sex again. (We did it that way a handful of times at the start of our relationship 5 yrs ago). Yet I knew he was interested to try orgasm again, because for him it is harmless.

Recently I said, "okay let's try it for say a month with orgasms just to see." I thought it would be sort of good for me to let go of the fear of orgasm that the Samael Aun Weor classes had started. They had demonised orgasms so to speak. I thought it would be good for me to go there again, so that I wasn't carrying a phobia of them with me anymore.

T and I had been going to marriage counseling for about 6 months to work towards more harmony in our relationship. Our approach [in counseling] was more of an "ignore and do the opposite of our old patterns/baggage," but I found it is/was quite forced and it took a huge amount of energy to keep this up.

We did the first 14 or so Exchanges [from Peace Between the Sheets], and I noticed many significant changes in our interactions as the result. The most apparent was that we related harmoniously and easily without forcing things. I didn't really have to push down my old patterns because they didn't come up so much anymore with him. We were touching and connecting like in the beginning of our relationship and it was nice to know that we could feel that way again. I would say that the changes were very dramatic and noticeable right away, and I would highly recommend this approach to anyone who is interested in a more harmonious marriage/partnership. I would also highly recommend it for people who have lost all "hope" or connection in their relationship.

My partner and I have been practising this new approach to love making for over a year now. There are the occasional slips which set off scary mood swings and and a desire in me to bolt. My partner becomes more taciturn and more addictive in his behaviour.

What I notice in particular is how much less impulsive I am in my behaviour over all, and more rational and realistic. For instance, during the sales season, I used to always find myself buying an expensive coat or evening dress I could not really afford, fantasising that by wearing it I was going to impress people who would be interviewing me or meeting me.So often the job or situation didn't materialise and I'd be left with an overdraft and several items of pretty but useless clothes in my wardrobe.I also used to feel stuck in my job because I could not afford to leave it.