non-goal oriented

On goallessness

Submitted by freedom on

I've been processing some heavy emotions dredged up by some volunteering I did. Initially, I was placing much too much pressure on myself to process that in some preconceived way. It was positively awful. The experience was perhaps heavier than the emotions. I felt I was failing at something I have little control over. Then last night I realized I wasn't living this out by my values. I decided it was ok to go as far into the heaviness as I wanted to or needed to. However, I didn't have to.

Ctrl+Alt+Del

Submitted by freedom on

I can be too good at entertaining myself. This has always been the case even as a child and before the internet. I was fine playing with children or playing alone. This seems to have morphed into a life of seemingly limitless self-created distractions. This might be fed by our modern life. I’d be a pretty distracted off-grid hermit, monk, etc. I’d probably prefer off-grid distractions even though the aimless process would be the same. Perhaps this is like crashing software in which the code can run through various loops and not escape or get the desired task done.

Passions/goals in relationships

Submitted by freedom on

How much do passions and goals matter both in finding a partner and maintaining a relationship? This is spoken about all over the place, but it doesn’t seem well substantiated. Perhaps it is code like many things for how much money and thus commoditized value someone earns/has. Goallessness can be negative, but I’m not sure it is inherently so. Few have no goals, but many have goals they don’t want to share. Some people are generalists and don’t intend to become expert or *rise* by delving deeper into any one thing.