Submitted by bhaggwood on Mon, 2009-06-08 07:28
Although I have not “lost sobriety,” as they say in 12-step programs, I have assuredly got my dopamine motor running, and am paying the consequences.
Submitted by bhaggwood on Wed, 2009-05-20 14:46
I’m surprised that it has been almost 2 weeks since my last post. Normally, that would have indicated a setback, a relapse, a “loss of sobriety” in 12-step-speak. I’m happy to report that that is not the case in this instance.
To be sure, the last few weeks have had their ups and downs, but the trajectory has been decidedly skyward. My frustration tolerance has increased decidedly, and the personal anger episodes that I am accustomed to have been significantly muted. In general, I am just happier.
Submitted by bhaggwood on Sat, 2009-04-25 16:41
It has been an unusually happy few days for me. And that makes me nervous.
Let me put it to this way. I went golfing with my brothers this morning, armed with the latest gimmick (a.k.a. “swing cue”) that would turn my game around. The result? The same. I sucked. I had a great time, mind you, but I was the same golfer I’ve always been
Submitted by bhaggwood on Wed, 2009-04-22 09:12
Could it be? Could it actually be????
I came across the stunning book excerpt yesterday from “God’s Poison Arrow” by Marnia Robinson, as well as studying other content by her. The basic premise is that fertilization-based sex (dopamine-driven) versus bond-based sex (oxytocin-driven) results in a kind of chemically-induced aversion and drug-like cycling of emotions and chemistry.
A part of me is incredulous. The premise seems too radical, yet makes so much sense. Perhaps most startling is that it gives form to many of the conclusions I had come to on my own.
Submitted by neil on Mon, 2009-03-09 08:41
Submitted by WilliamC on Sat, 2008-11-01 17:24
I just finished watching the two videos mentioned in the November Reuniting Newsletter. I thought the videos were an interesting snapshot of the struggles that these two couples and countless others deal with in the sexual expression aspects of their lives.
One possibility for people who are struggling with "sex in marriage" or "sexless marriage" is to try the Exchanges BEFORE they engage the expensive psychologist. They might even be able to repair the damage all by themselves and avoid the expensive psychologist all together.
