Submitted by Jesse on Mon, 2011-06-27 10:59
My wife recently read me an excerpt from Pontoon by Garrison Keillor.
“…Gladys’s husband Leon who had discovered Viagra and now … was up for sex. Viagra gave him a hard-on like a … Phillips screwdriver. …she tried to be a good sport. And then it took him forever. … the sight of the two of them in the dresser mirror struck her as hilarious. ‘Four hundred pounds of menopausal flesh bumping around and breathing hard.’ …Evelyn said, ‘Tell him if he needs to hump something, you’ll thaw out a chicken.’”
Submitted by stickfigure on Mon, 2011-05-09 07:09
So as I write this I'm on Day 14 of my reboot. I've gone 30 days without porn before, but that wasn't so much a conscious effort to reorient my brain chemistry as just an attempt to prove I didn't "need" to look at porn. Once I felt I'd proven that, I promptly went back to using. At the time, it didn't occur to me to ask why, if I didn't need it, I felt like I was holding my breath the whole month until I started watching again.
Submitted by stickfigure on Fri, 2011-05-06 08:14
Hi all. I found Your Brain on Porn a few weeks back and it really resonated with me. I'm in my late thirties, and have been masturbating almost daily since I was about 12. Porn was hard to come by in those early years, but ever since I got out on my own in my early 20s, I've used the Internet with abandon. For the last few years I've masturbated to porn videos most days.
Submitted by bhaggwood on Wed, 2009-05-20 14:46
I’m surprised that it has been almost 2 weeks since my last post. Normally, that would have indicated a setback, a relapse, a “loss of sobriety” in 12-step-speak. I’m happy to report that that is not the case in this instance.
To be sure, the last few weeks have had their ups and downs, but the trajectory has been decidedly skyward. My frustration tolerance has increased decidedly, and the personal anger episodes that I am accustomed to have been significantly muted. In general, I am just happier.
Submitted by neil on Mon, 2009-03-09 08:41
Submitted by WilliamC on Sat, 2008-11-01 17:24
I just finished watching the two videos mentioned in the November Reuniting Newsletter. I thought the videos were an interesting snapshot of the struggles that these two couples and countless others deal with in the sexual expression aspects of their lives.
One possibility for people who are struggling with "sex in marriage" or "sexless marriage" is to try the Exchanges BEFORE they engage the expensive psychologist. They might even be able to repair the damage all by themselves and avoid the expensive psychologist all together.
