Submitted by Marnia on Sat, 2011-04-02 20:48
One third of women suffer sadness after sex, new study suggests.
The time spent cuddling between the sheets after a passionate romp with your loved one sends sparks flying for most women. For others, there’s no such afterglow. One in three women has experienced “postcoital blues” at some stage in their lives, according to a new Australian study.
Dubbed postcoital dysphoria or “bedroom blues” ten per cent of the 200 women surveyed said they frequently or always felt sad after sex.
Submitted by shaivit on Thu, 2011-01-20 02:02
I aimed for a sunday to sunday target.
Faltered to porn the following wednesday 
. Wasn't demotivated though.
Didn't feel like writing about failure. So I set the target for next wednesday.
On the following monday I did a "plateau" orgasm without porn.
Watched porn yesterday (wednesday) and fighting with the chasers today.
Not a very motivating progress but there are two things I've observed.
1. There is a 100% improvement in the general feeling of happiness while abstinence.
Submitted by mr. drew on Sun, 2010-08-08 09:33
The trouble with orgasms is that they are not entirely within our control.
The need for control comes from a place of insecurity. When fear of the future, fear of intimacy, or fear or disempowerment drive your life, orgasm becomes a threatening event that makes you less.
The post-orgasmic neurochemical valley becomes something to fear. The refractory period becomes something to fear. The additional cravings become something to fear.
Submitted by TommyMaddox on Wed, 2010-07-21 13:38
I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but I didn't see another forum that looked more appropriate.
Anecdotally I buy what Marina is selling. 
I can see how the dopamine cycles have caused a lot of yo-yo'ing for me when it comes to sexuality and I recently experienced a period where I didn't orgasm for about 5 weeks and it felt like the most emotionally stable period I've had as long as I can remember.
Submitted by TommyMaddox on Wed, 2010-07-21 13:30
I've been working with my partner to decrease the frequency of our orgasms because I feel like I am more stable emotionally when I orgasm less frequently. However, this has been challenging because she still prefers regular orgasm. When we do orgasm with each other I do feel more drawn to pornography and fantasy in the subsequent days. However, I think I'm also using what I know of the dopamine cycle as an *excuse* to view porn or have fantasies. Almost as if it's her fault because she made me have an orgasm and therefore I can go watch porn or fantasize about someone.
Submitted by Parky on Mon, 2010-06-07 13:10
So, I haven't posted in a while and I've decided to start a blog to clear my head and hopefully help others as well.
Submitted by davidphd1866 on Sun, 2010-04-04 19:43
Here is an interesting thought that I read somewhere. Alas, I can't recall the source.
If we accept that our behavior with our wives or sweethearts deteriorates immediately after an orgasm and that this "hangover" lasts at least a week, let's examine how many orgasms we might be advised to have in a year's time.
Suppose the hangover is like taking a week's vacation away from your wife or sweetheart. After all, she is not getting your best during this hangover period.
Submitted by mr. drew on Wed, 2010-03-24 21:52
This is the only form of orgasm that still occurs for me. It still seems to have terrible consequences. Anywhere from 12 hours to 4 days later I have a really, really bad night -- where I feel ready to give up everything. The two dominant thoughts I have are "It doesn't matter" and "Just stop trying".
Submitted by Halo on Wed, 2010-03-03 03:32
My first try at abstaining went 19 days. Since then I haven't been able to get past five. I wonder why. Here's what I think: I was very sexually exhausted. Going 19 days without the big "O" replenished me. The downside is that my energy escalates much faster now. This is only a theory however.
My latest round I went 5 days. Then (like always) I got invited out to go to a stripper bar. This is standard entertainment in Pattaya, and the women are pretty forward... grinding up against you, grabbing you etc. etc. Well it's just too much for a red-blooded Canadian boy. I fell.
Submitted by gary on Wed, 2010-02-10 07:44
THE OUTLIERS (wasn't that an 80's movie?)
We are often asked - “ if a hangover exists. how do you explain couples that stay together for 50 years, and seem to be madly in love?”
Another common statement is “I never feel a hangover”
As for “I never feel a hangover” – I addressed that a bit in my previous blog. The hangover is often reflected in changed perception between partners – which is usually subconscious. So look to your relationships.
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