Things are going really well on the home front. I am being loving and cut waaaaay back on the needy. I give my Izzy gifts of love and affection every day. She is much less irritable and when she is, I am better able to hear her and respond appropriately. There is much less drama in my life. I'm keeping a sharp eye out for smothering behavior (on my part). Being loving as best I can. 11 days shy of 4 months without an orgasm. I get nostalgic from time to time, but it's really no longer an issue.

I'm new here, and I'm almost overwhelmed by all the wonderful new perspectives and information to consider.

However, I feel as though there's an elephant in the room that's getting insufficient comment: men use and abuse pornography infinitely more than women. This has grave consequences for society, families, and relationships.

I cannot help but feel that men, by their biological make-up, are innately threatening to these very constructs, and that ubiquitous access to sexual imagery has merely revealed the true extent and inherent nature of the threat.

Imagine a free tap-line supplying nothing but alcohol, situated in nearly every house in some private spot:

SUCH IS INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY.

Please help. I need a plan to follow to restore my sexual potency. How can I recover?

I've been looking at internet pornography since I began college 13 years ago. I never had any problems until I turned about 24. At that time, I noticed it was more difficult to get aroused when with real women. I started ordering generic viagra off the internet and his allowed me to have real relationships with women with few problems until the age of 29. Around that time, it became increasingly difficult to have real sex, even with the help of the pills.

The headline was: Study can't find men who hadn't seen porn

The second line was: Effects on sex life negligible, researcher finds

Here's the link for the article: http://bit.ly/8tM9Gr or http://bit.ly/5B19F3

Here's the conclusion (as summarized by the press): "The study found that men watched pornography that matched their own image of sexuality, and quickly discarded material they found offensive or distasteful.

Prof Lajeunesse said pornography did not have a negative effect on men's sexuality.

I borrowed some quotes so as to not clutter someone's blog cause my thoughts here are about me.

quote from Harmony :This is all evidenced for example by the fact that my addictive behaviors have tended to be preceded by some thought such as “Nobody loves me anyway,” or “I’m not attractive and nobody wants me,” etc. Such thoughts seem to be the kind of unconscious or pre-reflective excuses I have used to justify my behavior.

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Sunday my Isadora left town to help our daughter with her new baby. I'll go over there Thursday night or Friday. Home alone Sunday, Monday and this night. Each night I have cruised the TV over to Cinesex for about an hour each time.

(I also have my clothes and work papers all over the place. The dishes are dirty and I've been eating sloppy. I've gotten nothing of purpose done.)

The ch'ung mo, or thrusting channel rises from the base of the penis, goes up between the tu mo and jen mo channels and ends in the heart.—from "Taoist Yoga" by Charles Luk

For a variety of reasons, I've been returning to some really bad habits recently. Looking at porn! I've justified in my head that I have control over what I'm doing but I'm probably playing a little too close to the edge. 3 times in the last 4 days. Today there was no hesitation - got home from work, computer turned on and straight onto the porn sites. Haven't reached orgasm from the porn so I'm taking that away as a BIG positive. Although I did have my latest wet dream last night - that makes 4 in the last 6.5 weeks now.