Submitted by Marnia on Sat, 2008-11-08 09:40
Many women believe that if they aren’t easily having orgasm, they are flawed. In part this is because for forty years the American Psychiatric Association’s diagnostic manual, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), has defined a lack of spontaneous sexual desire in women as “hypoactive sexual desire disorder.” (Thanks to the work of Canadian doctor Rosemary Basson, the APA is scheduled to rethink this diagnosis in 2010.) It has also diagnosed men with “retarded ejaculation” has having a pathology.
Submitted by freedom on Tue, 2012-01-10 11:08
It might be possible to create an orgasm hierarchy that could be ranked by destabilizing neurochemical contribution.
Even without porn, I'm pretty sure we don't know enough to do this accurately. There are many gray areas including unconscious/dream orgasms, injaculation/retrograde ejaculation (anyone know if those are the same or safe?), accidental orgasm, and endless combinations of touch, fantasy, with/without partner, and so on. I'm likely omitting aspects of the female bag of tricks because I don't have that hardware.
Submitted by hotelcali on Sun, 2012-01-08 22:54
Ok, I've gotta rethink my strategy. My longest streak while attempting a reboot is 2 weeks. I messed up again today, sorting through some older things of mine brought up some old porn pictures I had forgotten, needless to say it spiraled out of control, this was day 3 of a new reboot. The worst part is that I felt like an observer when it started happened, I was telling myself no, but it's like another me was in charge. It sucked, I felt so worthless that i couldn't control myself.
Submitted by vrabie on Sat, 2011-12-31 10:00
My husband and I had orgasmic sex last night. He was feeling very "needful" and I sort of got dragged along into the same mindset. knowing how much he misses doing certain things for me when it's been a while. This was his first in about 10 days, and maybe twice as long for me.
Submitted by vrabie on Mon, 2011-12-12 22:47
My relationship with my husband began in an unusual way. Starting just two days after we met (and immediately fell in love), we started sleeping together, in the literal sense, almost every night. I've always had trouble falling asleep, and was amazed at being able to do so while snuggled up with him, our arms intertwined. That had *never* worked with anyone else. Probably helped that this was the dead of winter 
Submitted by mountaincap on Tue, 2011-11-29 01:53
Anxiety levels waxed and waned yesterday It's funny I was going to write about I was happier yesterday, yet on reflection there were periods when I experienced some quite low feelings. This morning I'm in a much better mood, I think that shows how you can reflect on the past and interpret your own reality in different ways. If you are depressed you will easily find things that depress you or have depressed you, if you are anxious you'll easily focus on the the things that make you anxious. If you are happy, the opposite tends to be true, or at least the absence of negative ruminations.
Submitted by endandbeginning on Sun, 2011-11-20 18:37
On the 18th , of this month, so day 2, i guess, (even though im having the fantasy problem)
New to the forums as well.
Anyway, I'm now 20 years old (just turned), and I started masturbating to porn, I cant even remember when, a few years back, early teens.
So I know my recovery will probably be longer then one who started porn late in his age.
But I know I can give up the porn, and I know I can give up masturbating and orgasm.
I am trying to go for the 90-120 day mark as that seems to be the biggest window of most success stories.
Submitted by StartingOver on Thu, 2011-11-10 17:38
I wrote a bunch of things down at work to blog about but left the list at work, so I'll give it my best shot.
1. I have also noticed that my penis looks bigger since I've stop PMO (still working on the F). I not saying I've grown a third leg. It just looks healthier, fuller and longer, where as before it usually looked like a turtle's head.
2. I've notice that my posture has improved, especially when I am walking. I walk more upright. I feel stronger too.
Submitted by tattvamasi on Tue, 2011-07-12 10:32
So it has been 52 days without orgasm for me. However... I just looked at some porn and came (no pun intended!) about as close to having an orgasm as I possibly could without actually getting off. Even though I haven't gotten off, I somehow feel like I have failed and I am ready to just go ahead and masturbate to orgasm. The thought of starting over on my road to recovery is super daunting though.
Submitted by tornfromabook on Sun, 2011-06-26 10:16
Had an O last night... I was only half awake, having some flirty dreams (no sex, just kissing my husband's back and getting a lot of attention from other men who were writing poems for me, etc) and I reach down there thinking "I'll try that tantric masturbation thing that worked so well for my husband". But orgasm was pretty unavoidable at that point, because I didn't realize how aroused I was. My PC muscles went CRAZY during the orgasm, which is only something that has happened to me a handful of times since puberty.
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