First husband
Remember your first husband? Always hot to trot, held doors open for you, could get an erection in the wink of an eye (especially from you), brought you flowers for no reason, wanted sex several times a night; three nights in a row wouldn’t be too much. The kids started coming along. Things got really hectic, but he loved the kids as much as you, and there was no doubt about his love for you. Still lots of steamy sex. You’re in the business of fertilization and procreation and ain’t it great?

Second husband

During the early part of our experimenting with Karezza, we spent more time close to the edge, and experimented with different positions which frequently spilled me/us over into orgasm. I'd say we managed to avoid orgasm more than 1/2 the time, but trying to have Karezza 2 or three times a week tripled the number of orgasms we were having compared to the previous year, where we had self-regulated by only have sex one or two times a month most of the time. So we were having lots more orgasms than before.

After spending eight months in Asia studying abroad and holding strong boundaries, I came back to the States ready for MEN!

Gorgeous men abound here, and I had no trouble connecting with several lovers in the first few months. After many years of being stuck in the orgasm cycle, I was tired of it. I wondered how would Karezza (being sexually intimate without orgasm) work for singles?
Just to be clear, I wasn’t being recklessly promiscuous. The three men I’ve been with in the last few months I’ve known for 9 months to 3 years before entering into an intimacy phase with them.

Hi everyone,

There is a 28-year old female Cupid enthusiast who wants to start giving talks in Boulder area about the concepts in the book. She's single, so she'd like to give talks with a man.

If you think you might enjoy teaming up to share your experiences with any of the concepts on the site and you live near Boulder, let me know and I'll connect the two of you.

Thanks!

Ok, I'm posting a few entries that I've been keeping for myself. My thoughts have been so crazy the past couple of days that I didn't want to "go public."

Actually, now that I look back, I'm finding them somewhat amusing. The goal originally was to go two weeks without P/M/O. P&M are under control. O is an entirely different matter.

Here is where I have been:

As some of you know, my partner and I work in the same office. This last week we had a 'hell week', as far as work goes - systems sending out failing messages in the middle of the night on Sunday (had to go in at 1 am - stayed till 3, home at 4, back in at 8, yeesh!) , a yearly audit starting, and our usual rush to get the money 'out the door'. We still keep in touch with a group of ex-employees, and this most recent Friday, 10 of us had a date to go out and have a Friday happy hour.

We have been practicing karezza for about a month.

My scorecard:
• No porn
• No solitary masturbation
• No ejaculation in three weeks
• Three “plateau” orgasms, without ejaculating
• My wife and I are reacquainted

The porn has been surprising easy to give up (well I did “peek” once in the first week when I was researching the scissors position – fortunately no ill effects.) I’ve noticed no withdrawal symptoms and I don’t feel strongly tempted. This is quite surprising to me, because I have been viewing porn regularly since the 50s.

So I'm starting to have a much better grasp on the role that orgasm plays in relationship but I'm still having some areas where I'm having some difficulty and looking for some perspective.

As a single person I always pondered what it was like to be finally rid of mother nature's nagging of go find a female NOW. I experienced that, and I must say it wasn't what I expected. I had a balance, and certainly contentment with what I had, but that was it. Everything was fine, bland, plenty of energy, happy, but bored. I had all the same work load, 40 hour a week job, with cooking and cleaning and maintaining several properties. I did it all, still happy, but just missing that extra push that I had. I didn't crave it, but I did miss it.

For the last few days, I've been following Karezza bread crumb trails through the internet - sometimes running into pages or articles which on the surface appear to be in English, but for the life of me, I can't translate them into something my brain understands! But I kept looking, and one search lead to another, of course, I ended up right back here - at a post that had the answer. (The question really was "how long does this take?"!) Oddly enough, the advanced searches here couldn't find it - but Google did. It's also almost exactly 5 years old...