I am curious, as to what the ideal goal is? I've heard it said here that giving up orgasm forever is not the goal and then others say that it is the goal. There has been much speculation as to time periods to abstain, 100 days a year, 40 days, a month, never.

Step 4 has ended and now I've passed day 1 of Step 5.

Yesterday I decided to go on a 40 day challenge of not Masturbating.... I am 20 years old.... if i complete this Challenge I will reward my self by getting the MAC book pro.... I really love that laptop.... However if I fail No MAC book pro!...... I am doing this challenge because I have been masturbating probably since i was 9... I am just curious to see how I am going to react to this challenge..... And for those that have done a challenge like this before let me know your experience and how did you overcome?

Can one begin to experience the brain balancing effects without going longer term without any release or orgasm? Is the brain balancing due to less porn, orgasm, or both?

I'm a bit confused about the individual effects versus combined effects of porn and orgasm/masturbation. Do we know the answer to that? Does anyone use porn and not orgasm?

So my partner and I are new to this whole thing. We regularly have had sex every day to every other day for a few years and we've been trying this for a month, but it's been incredibly difficult. We tend to give in or have unintentional orgasms in sleep after a week, so we've never been off the dopamine cycle and we've been at this for a month an a half. We're getting discouraged. Cuddling is part of our normal routine - we set time aside for it, always have, so that's been a major bonding behavior.

I don't really know where to put this, but it's something I've been pondering. This is my first post here.

I'm female and I would say I enjoy going periods of time without orgasm because it's another kind of sexual adventure.

Ok I want to write down an over view of my journey to this point.

I will start with as of today I am at 8 days without any type of porn, masturbation, or orgasm. This is as long as I have gone with out any of those. I have gone 12 days without orgasm but not the other two. My next short goal is to get to 13 days without any of them. Then it is just a short step to 15 days. After that more little steps to hopefully 20 30 or more days. That is where I am now. I want to do a short recap of my journey so far and add to this blog entry for awhile as I go.

I woke up on feb 26th with the thought i will go as long as i can without masturbating. I am not sure why but i had a thought i needed to do this. I made it 4 days without before i found this site. I found this site because i was looking for help cause 4 days without was pushing me hard. Well i spent a good bit of type browsing this site. I had no idea how much there was to learn about my chosen voyage. I read a good bit about other people trying what i was doing and it helped get me through that day and the next.