Submitted by Marnia on Sat, 2008-11-08 09:36
Every bit of emotional clearing you do will make it easier to open up to deep intimacy with a partner. Don’t hesitate to find a support group and/or therapist to help with this process.
Submitted by Marnia on Sat, 2008-11-08 09:31
Why not try your own experiment? Pass up orgasm for three weeks, and keep a diary of your experiences. Then when you *do* orgasm, keep a diary for the following two weeks. What do you notice?
Submitted by richaroo on Sun, 2011-11-27 09:12
Submitted by imnotcoming on Tue, 2011-08-02 18:10
Here is the recap for Actor Guy.
Last Tuesday, he told me in an email that he had a big crush on me. Tuesday night was when I was all uncomfortably turned on (see comment in this thread), but fortunately I was going to see him the next day and I knew we would make contact since I felt bold enough to make a move if necessary.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Wed, 2011-07-20 23:08
I haven't looked at porn or had an orgasm in about 40 days. I wasn't addicted - I just never had a reason to want to quit since it all seemed healthy and moderate. My experience since quitting is nothing as crazy as what the men on here describe, but there are vague echoes of it.
I did notice some marked horniness (during sexy movie scenes) in the first two or three weeks that faded to a more comfortable level in week four and beyond. No flatline at all.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-11 18:11
This is continued from this discussion: http://www.reuniting.info/node/6901
Well, that artsy guy wandered off. :( But I have a date tomorrow night. I'm not excited but my roommate told me to go because she liked his messages.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-04 12:51
Ok so. I am actively meeting people on OkCupid.
I decided I would feel comfortable talking about karezza on a second date. I'm pretty experienced at TMI/oversharing and I can usually make someone comfortable with me (or if he didn't seem comfortable and open, I would hold off).
But I need to know from the men, how should I present this idea? Should I put more emphasis on how I have personally chosen to forego orgasms because of the benefits to my reward circuitry or more on the loving connection I am looking for in a partner? Or what?
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-04 12:22
Hi, my name is imnotcoming. I've been lurking here for a few months and reading my copy of Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. I have decided to start a blog at wordpress rather than here, because it's more a of a writing project for me, but I'll be participating in the forums, too.
Thanks, Marnia and Gary, for this material. This is the most important thing I've read in the past few years. I'm much more optimistic about my dating future now.
Submitted by Namenottakenyet on Wed, 2011-05-25 02:15
So, yesterday I masturbated to orgasm after 23 days without any PMO and am very aware and wary of the chaser effect. I've already felt it in the past day. My question(s) are - does the potency of the chaser effect ever fade with time? Or does it stay as strong after every orgasm? Is it different with a partner vs. solo?
Submitted by Mystery on Sun, 2011-05-15 16:34
10 week rebalancing. tomorrow is day 14. feeling really good throughout my entire body. like a very mild but noticeable orgasm is flowing through my blood. just feel really energetic and good.
i intend to buy a porn magazine online... and to mark this intention more strongly inside, me. i intend to burn it once it has arrived.
i am nto sure what to say. no problems to write down. optimistic about lfe and myself right now.
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