bonding-based sex

I have not updated in a LONG time. What can I say, life is good! Let's get the stats out of the way.

No masturbation, don't even think about it, period.
Only one orgasm in over a year, and that was accidental.
Don't miss either.

Overall, my mood is better and I am full of energy!
I have started working out (Lost 17 pounds so far!) Not overweight terribly, just mainly out of shape.
Started eating better, and smaller portions.

My wife and I have been married more than forty years. We are best friends and have a very good relationship, but the sex all-but ended about four years ago. I have always been driven by the goal of achieving a climax. However, I have always needed a great deal of stimulation to reach the goal. I’ve never had a premature ejaculation – when I was younger, a quickie was at least 20 minutes. Nowadays, it usually takes about an hour – sometimes a lot more.

I find when I try to describe Marnia's work,
I struggle to describe it without saying
what it avoids.

I want an elevator speech
that tells what it is for.

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So, it turns out that our evolutionary energy,
that urge to move forward, to become more aware,
has many expressions in contemporary life.

One of them, arguably the most potent,
is what we call erotic energy.
Is it oversimplification to say it is the urge to connect?
Many of us, most of the time, experience this
as the urge to mate,
to perform acts which could bring children into the world,

I have not posted in awhile, thought it was time for an update. My wife and I agreed about two months ago to scheduling intercourse on every date that ended in 7. She suggested it, I agreed. (For those that may not remember or know, we are coming off a 5 year celibate period, so 2 - 3 times per month is a pretty significant improvement.)