Other issues for partners?

Hello. I've been experimenting by trying to avoid orgasms for 30 days and see what effects it has on my mood. I've been able to abstain for 11 consecutive days until I stayed over my fiancé's place. I didn't expect that he'd give me oral sex that day, and afterwards, I've been trying to explain why we shouldn't engage in conventional sex or "flirt with an edge" for a period of time because of my experiment. However, we had sex again a couple of days later, but this time, he performed oral sex on me in his sleep. ("Surprise sex"?)

This has come up here indirectly and in some of my own dialogue with people elsewhere. How realistic is it really for two people to be cuddle buddies and it not eventually break down into sex? Personally, I could commit to limited touching with the only exception being that I'd want dialogue channels to be open so that if my mind wanders it could be discussed. This probably can't work if people can't relax into themselves as that tension will likely lead to sex.

Hello Everyone,

Been a while since I've been on here.. I've not used P for a long time now maybe like once or twice but I definately don't feel the need to use it anymore.

Anyway, I'm on here for a slightly different reason - and I might be posting on the wrong forum but I've seen Gary post about ADHD before so I've got a couple of concerns.

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, I've always been hyperactive, talkative, restless legs etc haha.. anyway..

my wife is a bit taller than me.how to get into scissors position in such a case ?

So my wife and I have begun our journey in discovering Karezza. She has several reservations about Karezza but they essentially boil down to: 1) What happens when she just doesn't feel like Karezza intercourse and I do; 2) She's OK with Karezza as long as she can still have her orgasms (my, so far, unvoiced concern is if she is sexually sated and I'm not - we are not going to be on the same "schedule" for intercourse based on her diminished sex drive); 3) Sometimes she's too tired or too stressed out to even hug - so then what?

Hi, this is my first post here. I've been soaking up the articles on this site like a sponge! I'm really intrigued by the idea of Karezza and am very excited to try it.

In the meantime, I started a thread about it on another forum I visit in order to gauge how well it is known outside of this site. Note that this is NOT an advertisement for this forum (which unfortunately requires registration as a protective measure).

I'm just reading Peace Between the Sheets and it's benefiting me so much. Thank you! Question: for a year I did not have an orgasm with my partner. And I only self pleasured to orgasm about 5 times. Yet my fear response was very often triggered during that year. How did that happen? Did I miss something in the book?

I am a new member and I have come here to explore the concepts of karezza.

I will give a short history. I am a man in my middle forties. I was married to a narcissist for 19 years.
During the marriage, the only sex that I experienced was the cold and mechanical sort.
After being divorced, I took some time to develop a relationship with a woman out of the country. I spent several months earlier this year experiencing conventional sex that I can only describe as phenomenal. I am back in my own country now, but without my lover.

Hi everybody

I have been visiting this site for some time, and I have been interested/practising daoist sex approaches from a long time ago. I think what Marnia and Gary are doing here is great, and a true work of love. And the community is awesome, too.

I have been a silent reader, but today I have decided to write in the hope of finding some relationship advice.

My 1st post

I am new to Karezza however a previous partner and I were naturally practicing this for years without knowing it had a label. We would touch for hours and days and we found the magnetic energy was blissful if my partner withheld ejaculation. However, I am no longer with that bf.