Submitted by Marnia on Sat, 2008-11-08 12:17
Advice for mates: If your partner is hooked on porn, understand that at a neurochemical level, addictions are surprisingly similar. The issue isn’t dirty pictures; it’s a physical compulsion. Blame and threats will achieve little in comparison with your conviction that your partner can get informed about his true circumstances and seek support. (At that point it is up to him.)
Submitted by katten on Wed, 2011-06-01 08:14
So it's two steps forwards and one step back. Or maybe one step forwards and two steps back. It's hard to tell. He still hasn't gone a day without masturbation. Today he managed to find a way round the porn blocker. He says as he was watching he was thinking that I'd never have to know. But then he thought, if I think like that then I'll definitely loose her. So he stopped himself and went and had a cold shower. He knows that he is sabotaging things for himself and doesn' know why. He wants me to hate him, but I can't. I can walk away. That's still something I think about doing every day.
Submitted by katten on Mon, 2011-05-30 11:08
I feel like I am trapped in a game of good news, bad news and Humphrey Littleton has gone to sleep. The game just goes on and on and the situations get more and more rediculous and it stops being funny. But there is no one to stop it so I keep playing and hope when Humphrey eventually wakes up it will end on good news. Actually he's dead, so I'd need Stephen Fry to step into the breach but it seems he's busy at the moment.
Submitted by katten on Sun, 2011-05-29 02:03
Yesterday I felt like we turned a corner. It's dark and I cannot see what is ahead. It's probably a very bendy road with many corners and it is so dark that I am not even sure about this corner. I think it was there though. So I am starting a new post.
We spoke in the afternoon, my boyfriend and I, when he got back from work. Conversation was less difficult than before. While we talked he installed a porn blocker on his computer, but didn't test it. Better to have it as a last resort he said, and try and rely on will power.
Submitted by katten on Thu, 2011-05-26 01:59
I had intended just to update my blog from yesterday. It has, however, been hijacked for a long and tedious discussion about whether or not one can ever stop being an addict. Even I couldn't be bothered to read all the posts, and it's my blog. So I am just starting out afresh. I'm writing mostly for myself really, but I want any of you guys who are interested to be able to read it. If you want to comment then that is 
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Submitted by katten on Wed, 2011-05-25 09:27
Some of you have probably noticed already that I have suddenly started refering to my boyfriend as a porn addict rather than an ex-porn addict. It came as a surprise to me too. However, it explains a lot too. I couldn't understand why he was willing to have sex with me when he realised that it was causing me pain. In the past he has always been really good at calling an end to sex if he thought I was no longer comfortable.
