Hello all,

The Goal; To give up orgasms, for 21 Days

(From experience at previous attempts. For me to have any hope, I WILL GIVE UP: masturbating & pornography too)

I have been using my journal recently but I have decided to post my goals, both to help myself and to help others. This may give me more motivation to succeed knowing others maybe observing my progress.

You may find this earlier discussion of withdrawal symptoms and this one interesting, but please post yours here.

You may find this earlier discussion of withdrawal symptoms and the one below interesting, but please post yours at this new location. This thread is now officially too long.

Much of my work has to do with adults with Reactive Attachment Disorder. This is a group of individuals strongly struggling with personal relationships and intimacy issues. "Letting someone in" is not at all easy when the pattern has always been "letting go", especially when the first-love relationship with a mother (specifically) has been altered by abuse, abandonment and relinquishment of parental responsibility. I know these issues very intimately, because I was the lucky bastard who got burnt by two sets of "loving parents" and a sexless spouse.

I have just found a good anti-pornography site that is not a bunch of right-wing, religious nonsense. It is left-wing and feminist. Here is the link:

http://www.antipornography.org

The mainstream and sexologists seem to have a blind spot about the physical addictiveness of pornography for many people.

It is an easy error to make. People assume that only substances can be physically addictive. In fact, however, the brain is set up so that activities can produce an intense addictive dopamine cycle in the reward circuitry of the brain not unlike a drug does. Think of gambling.