Submitted by freedom on Wed, 2011-12-14 16:45
I read Getting to "I Do" by Dr. Patricia Allen (ISBN: 978-0-380-71815-3 http://www.amazon.com/Getting-I-Do-Pat-Allen/dp/0380718154) It’s target audience is women, but the author claims either sex can make use of the information. Some is decent, but I do wonder where the wheels came off in the sense that much seems intuitive to me while other parts I find disturbing. If that is what is required to find a long-term partner, I question how this is going to happen for me.
Submitted by Arnold on Mon, 2011-11-21 20:15
I've been pondering something I read under one of the porn addicts forums (http://www.reuniting.info/node/1831) that sat with me for a while and triggered some sadness in me.
Celeste wrote (a long time ago):
Submitted by freedom on Fri, 2011-10-21 10:47
I'm rapidly hitting others point of blockage where they have shared much of what they are willing to share. This makes repeated interaction boring as there is little new. It makes it hard to really get to know people. I want to get behnd the high level stories of others' lives. Taking the positive view that these people are not boring, but are just stuck, what options might I try for getting others to open more? The blockages are not all the same and could be intellectual or emotional. I know some are slower to share than others, myself included.
Submitted by freedom on Sat, 2011-08-06 14:47
A comment on text messaging versus voice communication being connected to "arousal addiction" prompted this topic.
Is there something inferior about text communication or is it the form of communication many are using? People wrote letters for eons. I doubt any letters had the superficiality of the most superficial texts which are connection without connection. It seems people like the lower pressure aspects of texts. I'm not sold. When I text, it becomes cumbersome to distill the content to content-lite. I'm not including texting about minor details like when and where to meet someone.
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-04 12:51
Ok so. I am actively meeting people on OkCupid.
I decided I would feel comfortable talking about karezza on a second date. I'm pretty experienced at TMI/oversharing and I can usually make someone comfortable with me (or if he didn't seem comfortable and open, I would hold off).
But I need to know from the men, how should I present this idea? Should I put more emphasis on how I have personally chosen to forego orgasms because of the benefits to my reward circuitry or more on the loving connection I am looking for in a partner? Or what?
Submitted by imnotcoming on Mon, 2011-07-04 12:22
Hi, my name is imnotcoming. I've been lurking here for a few months and reading my copy of Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. I have decided to start a blog at wordpress rather than here, because it's more a of a writing project for me, but I'll be participating in the forums, too.
Thanks, Marnia and Gary, for this material. This is the most important thing I've read in the past few years. I'm much more optimistic about my dating future now.
Submitted by marvol on Sun, 2011-06-19 14:08
I wrote a long post here but must have pressed the wrong button and it dissappeared 
Submitted by Jesse on Sun, 2011-06-05 18:39
I discovered reuniting.com and Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow about a year ago. Marnia and Gary’s work changed my life and from the beginning I hoped that it would change Christine. Here are the learnings that have affected my life – some I’ve been successful at; some I’m still seeking:
• No porn. No solitary masturbation. No fantasies.
• Engage in frequent bonding activities.
• Strict karezza – no goals – do not strive for orgasm – of any kind.
• Run up the giving score and forget about the getting score
Submitted by katten on Tue, 2011-04-12 09:22
The guys at work have come up with a new term for me. I am a hug slut. They actually started using it for me before I slept with either of them, just because I am eternally searching for cuddles. I do mean sleeping with them by the way, not having sex with them. I slept with the first guy by accident. All three of us were spooning on a sofa bed watching a movie (I was staying in staff accommodation on the job, it is early in the season so there were only two of us working and then another guy who is an occasional staff member who stayed over a couple of times).
Submitted by Jesse on Sat, 2011-03-12 14:48
I need to reconnect with this community ... Snowy Owl, rediscovered, Quizure, A.C., Simone and of course Marnia. Soon ...
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