Submitted by Marnia on Wed, 2009-02-11 13:04
If you are aching because you don't have a partner, try some of these things to ease your discomfort while you're waiting. Many have been found by researchers to increase oxytocin, and /or speed the growth of new brain cells (which seems to protect against/reverse depression). Oxytocin is a hormone that eases cravings and withdrawal symptoms. It gives a nice warm feeling of connection. It also registers as soothing, even if the feeling is less intense than the neurochemical "reward" of orgasm. (However, oxytocin doesn't produce a hangover.)
Submitted by katten on Fri, 2011-09-23 12:47
It's been a while since I wrote here last... I feel like most of what is going on in my life right now isn't really relevant to this forum I guess. I've been lurking a lot, but not really sure what to say. I tried to write last night following an instruction from the oracle to share, but somehow I didn't feel like writing. Giving it another shot tonight.
I've been using the oracle a lot actually. The instructions from the oracle today go as follows:
What is holding me back or causing me pain?
Submitted by marvol on Sun, 2011-06-26 12:35
last night I came home a little bit drunk, looking for a good night's sleep... and suddenly I was on my computer, looking at porn movies, surfing on prostitution websites, even making phone calls to check if one of those girls would be available, masturbating, edging... but before I arrived to orgasm, I stopped the whole thing, got up, took a shower, went to sleep.
the funny thing is I had been on two dates that weekend, holding hand with one girl, exchanging a small kiss with the other... and then, this.
Should I reset the counter? Or consider it a slip?
Submitted by marvol on Sun, 2011-06-12 15:29
I'm in my forties, I'm currently single, I've never been married, I have no children. I had a lot of short-term relationships and some more serious ones (beetween 1 to 3 years). I started masturbating to porn when I was around 18. Since then, for 25 years, porn has been part of my life in some way. Sometimes it was very intense, sometimes I managed to stop completly. When I was around 30 I started visiting prostitutes, and that also became an addiction, with milder and stronger phases, and longer periods of abstinence, especially when I was in a relationship with a woman.
Submitted by keanmedu on Tue, 2011-03-01 06:45
Would it be plausible a longer cycle? Something that is easily up to a few months longs. Governed by Serotonin. With Serotonin growing slowly as a person is celibate, until it leads to spontaneous orgasms (but not emissions). At that point the system is unstable, and a person often stops being celibate. This leads to masturbation. Which either lowers serotonin, or lowers perceived serotonin (with a system similar to what we know so well about Dopamine). As Serotonin is now lower, a person becomes more impulsive, and masturbates more.
Submitted by asark on Sat, 2010-10-23 11:21
So yesterday (10/22/2010) I was doing great. I noticed my urges of masturbating was less and that the thought of viewing pornography was not even on my mind. Suddenly it struck last night and I had a wet dream. I'm going to continue counting however and consider this Day 15 since I had no control over my situation. My ultimate goal is to prevent voluntary masturbation/viewing porn and not involuntary ejaculation.
Submitted by spaceman98 on Sun, 2010-10-03 06:38
This is my first post on this site. I wanted to share a little of my own personal journey which bought me to this material and my experience since finding it. I had 2 major relationships in my life. the first for 7 years and the second a marriage of 5 years which ended last year. I have been practising meditation for about 15 years and have a regular practise. This journey has led me to explore deeply my own sexuality and how to integrate this with a spiritual practise. I spent many years attempting celibacy within the first relationship.
Submitted by shaivit on Wed, 2010-09-01 15:23
Submitted by TheZone on Wed, 2010-07-28 20:23
I don't know what to say about it. I don't feel the ups and downs that I got from the orgasm cycle, but I still have not been able to let go of thinking sexual thoughts for fear that I may become asexual, and that it may be considered, 'weak', or unmasculine I guess. I have thought about sex though, and the orgasmic type too..gotten to the precum part, it's not as detrimental as the full orgasm but.. I guess it can also cause ups and therefore downs.
Submitted by neil on Mon, 2010-06-07 13:44
I found this site about 15 months ago. In this time, the following changes have occured in my marriage and my life:
- My wife and I resumed having sexual intercourse after 4 plus years of celibate marriage
- I have not masturbated in almost one year. For many months before that, I did it ritually and maybe once per month in a misguided belief that the pipes needed to be cleaned. I have absolutely no desire to masturbate.
- I have not ejaculated in 7 months. I no longer have any desire to ejaculate, even if I get overheated during intercourse.
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