I've been exploring this wonderful site for approximately five months now. By sharing my story, I hope to join a community of very strong people who are confronting a powerful issue in their lives; pornography.

Hello all,

I've been a silent lurker on this site for about a year now. Ergo, I've been living with the knowledge that I am an addict for the same period of time.

All that stuff I wrote the other day about focusing on spiritual growth and just letting go of the desire to find a partner, well it all sounds really good, but I don't think it is all that easy to do. I want to release feelings of neediness and desperation that seem to accompany my relationships with men I am attracted to, not necessarily the attraction that I feel towards men. I don't really think that I act desperate or needy with them, it is mostly kept inside, but I'm sure that it is recognized on some unconscious level.

2009 is already proving to be a very good year as I build upon the progress I made in 2008.

There are a few experimental communities today where overcoming the pain in sex and living the connection between sexual experience and spirituality is an important part. The experiments include learning to overcome jealousy, possessiveness.

See http://www.zegg.de/index.php?english

and

www.tamera.com

What have people found to help when one is in the 'Danger Zone', which for myself is a particular time of day when it is habitual to 'do' porn?

I would like to see a plain and simple list of strategies, the more variety the better so people can pick what suits them.

One problem is the subversion of the Will at this time. We begin the day with the best of intentions, but at the end of the day change our minds. What can be done to subvert the primitive brain's signals instead?