healing

I've been pondering the idea of brain plasticity which I understand is at the root of why people are concerned about pornography. If the brain is plastic then you can program it. Pornography programs it through passive visualization in a certain direction with certain predictable (and not so healthy) results.

Hi y'all,

I did a Louise Hay workshop recently and have been exploring affirmations. I used to think that they were a little strange and counter my interest in meditation which emphasizes "Choiceless Awareness". But I found that the affirmations that she suggests are simply antidotes to negative "affirmations" that are already active in my mind. It was an interesting workshop.

Are there any single parents out there wanting to start or are already in a new relationship practicing bonding-based sex or Karezza? I'm starting this blog to invite some ideas and explore some questions I have (and maybe you have) as a single parent wanting to find a partner that wants to practice Karezza.

How do you find someone who wants to experiment with the exchanges when just the commitment to that experiment (if you follow the 'sleeping together every night' suggestion) also requires commitment to being part of a family?
How do you manage a longer period of courtship?

I had another conversation with Padma last night. I was curious to know if what I was doing for her was healing for her. She said "yes" and that all I had to do was be with her for the connection to be healing for her. It seemed a little confusing to me, but I took it for what it was. I also talked with her about a couple of visual flashes I had experienced and thought they might be related to my depression (and the anger that followed it). I had experienced a couple of brief flashes in her presence where I was seeing her without her clothes on.

This morning I started Lesson 12 from "Love is Letting Go of Fear".

Quote:

I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me, I ask for, and receive as I have asked.

Teach only Love for that is what you are.

I like this lesson very much.

This morning I started Lesson 11 from "Love is Letting Go of Fear".

Quote:

I can elect to change all thoughts that hurt.

In my mind, there are thoughts that can hurt me or help me. I am constantly choosing the contents of my mind, since no one else can make this choice for me. I can choose to let go of everything but my loving thoughts.

This morning I started Lesson 10 from "Love is Letting Go of Fear".

Quote:

I could see peace instead of this

Most of the time I see a fragmented world where nothing seems to make much sense. The bits and pieces of my daily experience reflect the chaos I see within. Today, I welcome a new perception of myself and the world

This morning I started Lesson 9 from "Love is Letting Go of Fear".

Quote:

The past is over. It can touch me not

Fear and Love, guilt and Love, cannot coexist. Only if I keep reliving the past in the future, am I a slave to time. By forgiving and letting go of the past,I free myself of the painful burdens I have carried into the present.Now I can claim the opportunities for freedom in the present without my past distortions.

Today I choose my release from from past pains and suffering by living only in the immediate present.

This morning I started Lesson 8 from "Love is Letting Go of Fear". I completed Exchange 3 with my bodiless partner last night too.

Lesson 8 wrote:

This instant is the only time there is.

Lesson 7 from "Love is Letting Go of Fear"

Quote:

Today I will Judge Nothing that Occurs.

Today, be willing not to make a condemning judgement against anyone you meet, or even think about. See everyone you meet or think about as either extending Love or as being fearful and sending out a call for help, which is a request for Love.