Submitted by Arnold on Tue, 2011-11-22 11:56
As I continue to work on healing myself the theme of uncovering repressed anger has been coming up for a week or so now. It's challenging, because I generally don't feel it strongly enough to really figure out where it's coming from in a way that I can do anything about. The effect on my body is pretty extreme though (I'm pretty clear that the fistula I'm currently working on healing is connected to repressed anger in me (a fistula is a hole in the intestine caused by bacterial infection that, in my case, bored it's way through my skin to the outside of my body).
Submitted by Namenottakenyet on Fri, 2011-04-29 02:11
So, I won't go in to many number details, but suffice it to say that I recently had a PMO binge relapse, and it's got me thinking and reflecting on just how far I've come, and how far there is left to go. Also, it's got me thinking about how I need to work on getting better at relationships with women, and that I've substituted so much of that learning for PMO in the past.
Submitted by katten on Thu, 2011-03-24 08:02
There seems to be a bit of a gap in this community. We have the karezza couples, and lots of people in various stages of recovery from porn addictions but no one seems to be talking much about just giving up masturbation. I actually overlap a bit into the karezza couple category. I have a (very) long distance relationship with an ex-porn addict and when we are together we try and use as many elements of karezza as we can into our meetings. But most of the time I am functionally single: there is no bonding and I haven't got the same incentive to avoid orgasm as I have when with my partner.
Submitted by SnowyOwl on Sun, 2011-02-20 16:34
Golden Eagle used those words today to sum up his experience. It was surprisingly also not sexual either! When we started, I was in a crummy mood so we danced first to let that mood shift. In bed we used scissors and the kneeling position (see 2/7/11 post) with his body close to mine.
We both experienced kriyas. Jack Kornfield discusses these in his book, A Path with Heart.
Submitted by Quizure on Thu, 2010-06-24 07:55
Submitted by damonshouse on Wed, 2010-06-02 07:11
Hi, I am a young fit male. I am married and I never allow myself to ejaculate or orgasm. I have not had an ejaculation or orgasm now for over 23 years.
I am interested to know how women feel about men not ejaculating and holding back. In my experience women like it, it makes men better lovers and more caring.
Damon
Submitted by Brenmal on Fri, 2010-05-28 19:41
What I dislike about some women is that they take us for a ride. They have picked up on how our limbic systems work and are using it, quite naturally, I suppose to get what they want.
Manipulative because they realise that there is a strong predilection in men to give them what they want if they flirt with us because subconsciously our male limbic system is programmed to associate this with a chance to mate.
Perhaps the male human mating ritual was once, I've got a slab of wooly mammoth... can you cook it? Oh, and later, 
...
Submitted by ctsw on Sun, 2010-02-07 04:15
I'm new here, and I'm almost overwhelmed by all the wonderful new perspectives and information to consider.
However, I feel as though there's an elephant in the room that's getting insufficient comment: men use and abuse pornography infinitely more than women. This has grave consequences for society, families, and relationships.
I cannot help but feel that men, by their biological make-up, are innately threatening to these very constructs, and that ubiquitous access to sexual imagery has merely revealed the true extent and inherent nature of the threat.
Submitted by Daffy Duck on Wed, 2009-11-11 17:01
Well, I have some questions and this is going to be embarrassing for sure, but I remember a time not too long ago that I couldn't even use sexual words or say them outloud, even. So, I'll give it a go since I'm over that problem I think.
Submitted by Love Gnosis on Tue, 2009-11-03 12:49
The traditional role of men in the act of intimacy is usually that of the active one - i.e. he does the thrusting whilst the woman receives it. This may be all well and good within the traditional fertilisation-driven sex framework, but can we really RE-UNITE within such an approach? If it is about focus on the man being the giver and the woman always the receiver, then how can we reach union given that both genders have an aspect that the other needs? Isn't there truth in the phrase "in giving you receive"?
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